marriage

[BetterCallSaul]

Hm another example of her instinctive jealousy- not even one week ago, we were getting a new tire at Pep Boys, and the Pep Boy was truly digging her. He was very flirty, and she reciprocated rather beautifully. She was charming and aglow, and I liked watching her. We talked about it while we waited the hour that they told us, while walking to a store.

The first significant detail is that I had to explain maybe 6 different times that I wasn't chastising her or sad or mad about it, that I thought it was funny, and that she looked hot, and that it only made me happy- she kept assuming that I was jealous and kept assuming a defensive rhetoric, instead of discussing anything from the perspective in which I viewed and expressed the situation, one of admiration and contentment.

So in the course of that conversation, I had to explain to her about shiny eyes lol- she didn't notice that the Pep Boy had all shiny eyes at her, or know that such a thing even occured in courtships. When I explained it, her response was the predictable, "Oh...you better not shine your eyes at anyone."

 

[BetterCallSaul]

You read the whole thing in seven minutes? I don't believe you.

well 1) it's a book that I'd have to buy, so no, I didn;t read any of it.

2) I did skim through the available content on amazon, and it seems like it's about fixing your sex life or something and "getting your wife to strip off her panties for you." That isn't what I am talking about in the thread or an issue whatsoever. I am hot. She is shameless. She cums more than any combination of any 3 women that we know.

 

[Carlybee]

Dude stop posting personal stuff about your wife on a very public message forum.

 

[otherone]

It's already a joke between me and my friends, how terrifying and suspicious such behavior is.


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me and this girl aren't in any way sexually anything together, but our relationship is still courtshipy tasting, and sometimes she is pretty forward about how bad she wants it.

You are playing a dangerous game. What Nirvy said is correct about intimacy. Does your wife know about this behavior/seduction/forwardness? Does she know about your friend's jokes? Why do you seek out the company of this other woman? Your behavior is the shit in which divorce mushrooms, and it appears you are trying to justify it by demeaning marriage in general.

 

[BetterCallSaul]

Dude stop posting personal stuff about your wife on a very public message forum.

lol what?! she is not a real person to you- she is a fantasy in your imagination that is triggered by some words on a screen. It isn't "public" if I am not using my name or location, and no one here is my real life friend.

 

[Carlybee]

lol what?! she is not a real person to you- she is a fantasy in your imagination that is triggered by some words on a screen. It isn't "public" if I am not using my name or location, and no one here is my real life friend.

Whatever..you are either really immature or just an asswipe.

 

[BetterCallSaul]

You are playing a dangerous game. What Nirvy said is correct about intimacy. Does your wife know about this behavior/seduction/forwardness? Does she know about your friend's jokes? Why do you seek out the company of this other woman? .

Why is it correct? She never answered my question in response, and I found her position to be contrived and based entirely on notions of politness and social pressure, things that are not real at all to me and of no importance whatsoever in how I live my life.

 

[BetterCallSaul]

Whatever..you are either really immature or just an asswipe.

I think that you are being immature, and are probably just like one of the 3-combination lump women that we know. Jealous? lol

 

[otherone]

and I seek this other girls company because I like her company...lol. She is also charming, and fun, and sweet, and sarcastic and funny and beautiful. We get on smashingly.

You really are a babe in the woods. Describe your friend this way to your wife, and I'll be the first to sign your cast.

 

[Carlybee]

I think that you are being immature, and are probably just like one of the 3-combination lump women that we know. Jealous? lol

Jealous of what? If I found out my husband was posting intimate details about me on a message forum I would knock him into next week. Have some respect.

 

[BetterCallSaul]

But maybe because those details are boring and embarassing and not affirming of your feminine prowess, is what I am saying. Of course you would be mad, in other words, because you would sound cold and boring. Or else you wouldn't object to this line of discussion.

 

[otherone]

Jealous of what? If I found out my husband was posting intimate details about me on a message forum I would knock him into next week. Have some respect.

He truly believes that if he can't be caught, he's done nothing wrong.

 

[BetterCallSaul]

You really are a babe in the woods. Describe your friend this way to your wife, and I'll be the first to sign your cast

haha I tried to rep you but I am not allowed to keep heaping it upon only you.

The wife and I have an understanding about this kind of disclosure; I tried maybe 4 months ago to explain to her that just because we are married, does not mean that I do not want to have sex with other women; it just means that I won't. She cried and screamed and threw things and said in a demonic voice that was not her own to shut up, and begged me to deceive her as much as possible to make her forget that. So now I'm basically supposed to be a secret agent.

 

[BetterCallSaul]

He truly believes that if he can't be caught, he's done nothing wrong.

Caught telling a poster that my sex life with my wife is in no danger, and that we love each other's company, and that she cums a lot? You know that this is the detail that Carlybee finds objectionable, right?

 

[Carlybee]

But maybe because those details are boring and embarassing and not affirming of your feminine prowess, is what I am saying. Of course you would be mad, in other words, because you would sound cold and boring. Or else you wouldn't object to this line of discussion.

 

[otherone]

haha I tried to rep you but I am not allowed to keep heaping it upon only you.

The wife and I have an understanding about this kind of disclosure; I tried maybe 4 months ago to explain to her that just because we are married, does not mean that I do not want to have sex with other women; it just means that I won't. She cried and screamed and threw things and said in a demonic voice that was not her own to shut up, and begged me to deceive her as much as possible to make her forget that. So now I'm basically supposed to be a secret agent.

Why did you marry her?

 

[BetterCallSaul]

Carlybee, you are basically saying that married-people-sex is supposed to be some secret coven about which none dare speak. This is the most anonymous possible forum for discussing...If you disagree with anonymous, undocumented screen-names discussing it, I am assuming that you disapprove of it as a topic of conversation in my real life with real people that know the two of us. So, why is it supposed to be some big secret conspiracy?

 

[otherone]

Caught telling a poster that my sex life with my wife is in no danger, and that we love each other's company, and that she cums a lot? You know that this is the detail that Carlybee finds objectionable, right?

Tell ya' what. Show the little lady this thread and get back with me....

 

[BetterCallSaul]

Why did you marry her?

I have to possess her. It's like the most constistent and overwhelming impulse that I have ever had. What does that have to do with then blinding myself to sexual signals from other potential mates? By marrying her I did intend to make her the only woman with whom I have sex, but that doesn't mean I am going to pretend that every other ass between me and the horizon is not worth a look.

 

[BetterCallSaul]

It is fascinating to me, and getting closer to the root of the issues of the discussion, that so many comments are entirely appeals to fear of punishment.