What Do Women Want?

[brandon]

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This is a great post. Sums it up very well.

Here's a related personal anecdote:

About a week ago I was talking to a girl who informed me she was taking a poetry class. I quickly told her "I really hate poetry." I was not playing any type of game, I really don't enjoy poetry so I let her know.

Her and I ended up having a pretty good time that night, if you know what I mean.

It's all about being yourself men. Don't try to please a woman, because it's an impossible task. Let her please you.

 

[cheapseats]

You know how there's Broadway, Off Broadway and Off Off Broadway?

Maybe you could devise a forum off-er than Off Topic for women's issues -- perhaps Way Off Topic, or Beneath Off Topic.

Wankers.

 

[Kludge]

You know how there's Broadway, Off Broadway and Off Off Broadway?

Maybe you could devise a forum off-er than Off Topic for women's issues -- perhaps Below Off Topics, or Lower Than Below Off Topics.

Wankers.

Are you the fellow at Meijer who bitched at me (a non-employee) because brooms were so expensive?

 

[Acala]

About right

bottom line, women our individuals, who want individual things.... Acala sounds like hes the closest i have heard when it comes to understanding the majority of women i have known in my life (myself included) although not on everything...

i didn't read through the whole thread, and not at all before i posted my above comment...

but that being said heres a nutshell of what i think the majority of women want

when i say we, im only speaking for the majority of women i have known, and for myself... i am not intending to be collectivist here:


we want to be respected first and foremost... this included a broad spectrum of things, including but not limited to, HONESTY, communication, etc...

we want men to be somewhat dominant, but still hold our opinions in high regard, meaning, take charge, but ask us what we think first (this one can be tricky )

we want a certain amount of "southern manners" ie.. be a gentleman, not just to us, but other women as well (if we see you treating your mom or other women with respect, we know its likely you will treat us this way too)

we want to know you will protect our feelings when necessary

we want to know you will defend, and protect us when necessary

we want to know you believe in us, and our independence

we want you to be open minded

we want you to baby us once in a while to an extent, but don't let us take advantage of you... this should be a two way street, no one person doing everything for the other person

we don't want you to put up with a bunch of BS. Show some self respect and tell us to "knock it off" demand our respect, but again respect us the same.(do unto others...)

we don't want you to let us take advantage of you

we dont want clingy, neediness, desperation, egotistical, disrespectful

do everything you can not to yell at us, remind us not to yell at you as well... yelling should not be tolerated in a relationship... mistakes are made, especially if yelling is a habit, there should be boundaries set, and a reminder each time not to yell

don't be afraid to apologize, and expect an apology when its due as well

try not to be too pessimistic

be nice (not just to us, but others as well)

take some time out to focus on us... especially if you are involved in lots of extra-curricular activities... include us when possible, and let us know your there even when your busy

theres probably more im forgetting but i think that should help some of you out

i think this probably goes both ways too... girls can follow this advice toward men as well... i have the most amazing boyfriend, who not only "gets it" but gets me as well... i think thats important in a relationship... one of the things i value the most about mine, is my boyfriend understands me, and even when he doesn't he isn't afraid to admit that, and he still treats me with respect after almost 4 years, even when things get rough... he lets me know frequently how much he cares about me, and i try to do the same for him.

This sounds about right to me. Not that I am good at some of it. I especially fail at frequently letting my lover know IN WORDS that I love her. I'm sort of like the comedian Jake Johansen who told his wife "Hey, when I said I love you that means I love you until further notice!" I know it doesn't work that way. And I know that my lover can't always be expected to be satisfied with knowing I love her based on the way I treat her and what I do for her, even though talk is cheap and actions speak louder than words. Ah, well.

 

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Jesus Wept.

Ain't it the fuckin' Truth?

 

[newtoforums]

roxic27 that sounds like a joke.

If you're so independent why do you need to have your feelings protected? Why do you need chivalry? Why do you need to be defended as you put it.


its one thing to want those things. But don't say you're independent.

Sounds like only a passive aggressive woman wants a man to take charge yet still consider her opinion. Either don't offer your opinion or take equal responsibility.

You want a gentleman? What does a lady do? Should men evaluate women based on how they treat their fathers and brothers?

Chivalry should go away. A lady don't have anywhere near the responsibility a gentleman does. Men should act like gentleman if all women in general act like ladies towards them. And no saying thank you doesn't make you a lady. Anybody can do that.















On to the original article. It essentially says women are narcissists who are selfish in bed and only capable of feeling sexual attraction for themselves. Which is pretty wrong. I can't imagine a relationship working like that.

 

[Nirvikalpa]

roxic27 that sounds like a joke.

If you're so independent why do you need to have your feelings protected? Why do you need chivalry? Why do you need to be defended as you put it.


its one thing to want those things. But don't say you're independent.

Sounds like only a passive aggressive woman wants a man to take charge yet still consider her opinion. Either don't offer your opinion or take equal responsibility.

You want a gentleman? What does a lady do? Should men evaluate women based on how they treat their fathers and brothers?

Chivalry should go away. A lady don't have anywhere near the responsibility a gentleman does. Men should act like gentleman if all women in general act like ladies towards them. And no saying thank you doesn't make you a lady. Anybody can do that.

On to the original article. It essentially says women are narcissists who are selfish in bed and only capable of feeling sexual attraction for themselves. Which is pretty wrong. I can't imagine a relationship working like that.

*sigh*

As a woman, I would defend my boyfriends feelings. He should do the same.
As a woman, I would protect my boyfriend to the best of my ability. He should do the same.
As a woman, I value my boyfriend's opinion on things. He should do the same.
As a woman, I respect and honor my boyfriend. He should do the same.
As a woman, I respect my boyfriend has had different life experiences. He should do the same.

I don't think any of the thing's Roxi said can and should apply to just one sex over the other. I don't think these things are required to live by, no one is going to die not obeying them, but I think they are wanted from both sexes in a relationship.

There are some things men I think secretly want in a woman; to be able to show emotion without being judged, to show a more gentle side without fear of not being seen as masculine, etc.

Plain and simply, I don't ask for anything I myself am not willing to dish out.

 

[canadian4ronpaul]

women have no idea what they want. what they tell themselves they want, and what they actually go for are in most cases completely different

 

[asimplegirl]

I want security and love and safety and respect.

That's all.

 

[heavenlyboy34]

I want security and love and safety and respect.

That's all.

You also want me, I knowz it! hehe

 

[heavenlyboy34]

women have no idea what they want. what they tell themselves they want, and what they actually go for are in most cases completely different

That's been my experience thus far. Perhaps older ladies have their acts together better. :o

 

[MelissaWV]

Oh Oh I thought of another one!

I want............................



.........................to not be called an older lady

 

[heavenlyboy34]

Oh Oh I thought of another one!

I want............................



.........................to not be called an older lady

Okay, older lady!

 

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It's like lying in bed reading a Playboy, and your girlfriend is turning the pages...

No sense in bein' anything but up front, eh? That notion is SO not workin' for me.

Brings THIS back to mind:

I don't care what you think.

I'm thinking THAT could be a problem.

Haven't seen YOU around in awhile.

"Not to embarrass you but to get to know the species better," I wonder if you would answer a question.

Let's say you really enjoy nudie pictures, nudie bars, lap dances, et al. And let's say you actually give a shit about a woman who gives a shit about you right back, but who cannot relate to and will not participate in this particular entertainment of yours. Then let's say that she favors a pasttime that YOU can't abide, perhaps the theater.

Let us further suppose that she accommodates your oggling and and groping at strangers' nakedness, not passing judgment or carrying on but instead using the same time to attend the theater. Insofar as you ARE oggling and groping at strangers' nakedness, are you fine with her theater attendance occurring in company of another man?

 

[Natalie]

I think all women just want a man who can protect them physically and provide for their family. Even feminists secretly want that, but don't like to admit it. I mean, what do they want, some wimpy guy? I don't think so.

 

[Cowlesy]

One word: Shoes.

 

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One word: Shoes.

If it will reduce to one word, shoes isn't it. Implicit in SHOES, always, is AND BAGS.

 

[Theocrat]

Three Main Things Women Want

(In no particular order)

• To be loved.
• To be secured.
• To be pampered.

 

[LATruth]

A massive, throbbing, line of credit?

 

[Sandman33]

I've wondered about this ever since a girl I knew confessed this to her friend, who in turn told me. Her fantasy was being raped by a burglar in the middle of the night.

Needless to say I was like WTF that chick is whack. However she seemed perfectly normal in all other respects.

DUDE..you'd be surprised...MOST women have that same fantasy.

Here's the TRUTH about women:

YouTube - Where Are all the Real Men?

YouTube - Are Men Necessary?