First you said this:
So again, they view putting a murderer in jail for murder is evil because no human should coerce another into doing something they don't want to.
(which is not what anarchists believe, none of them here have made that claim, you made it for them.. about four times by my count), and then you said this:
My God, this is the problem with debating people I mean they make arguments that don't exist or create scenarios I never agreed with.
So first you make arguments that don't exist (by setting up strawmen), and then you appear frustrated because you accuse others of doing it. But we'll let that bit of irony slide by for now.
Libertarians and Anarchists (or more accurately, Anarcho-Capitalists) agree that the initiation of force is immoral. But there is nothing wrong with retaliatory force. This is why it's wrong to murder someone, but there is nothing wrong with putting a murderer in prison (the latter is retaliatory force).
If the initiation of force is wrong, then that means you can't steal, enslave, murder, or infringe on someone else's property. All other acts are allowed. This should be a fairly straight-forward and simple concept to grasp, and it is what libertarianism is based upon.
So now we take this to its logical conclusion. If an individual cannot steal, then a group of individuals cannot steal, because a group does not have any rights that the members of that group do not have. Therefore, government cannot impose taxes, because taxes are theft, because taxes are the taking of one's property without their consent; and libertarians and anarchists agree that theft is wrong and should not be institutionalized.
Given that government funds itself by the initiation of force, it stands to reason that government would not exist if the initiation of force were not allowed as per libertarian philosophy. Government in some small form may exist if it were to acquire their funding by voluntary measures (either by providing a service, through donations, or perhaps even with a lottery of some sort).
I'm an anarcho-capitalist because I don't believe government needs to exist in order for a peaceful society to exist. In fact, I believe there's a higher probability of a peaceful society in the absence of government. Like you, I abhor the state in its current form. However, if a voluntarily-funded government were to spring up and it had the same restrictions as all other individuals (that it no legal authority to initiate force), then I would have no quarrels with it.
Like most minarchists who are vaguely familiar with the ideas of anarcho-capitalism, your main objection is that society would fall into chaos without some minimal form of government. This used to be my view, and to be able to accept anarcho-capitalism on an intellectual basis I had to be satisfied that that would not be the case. Originally, I thought that I needed all of the answers to my questions, like how would X work, or how would Y work? As I started to notice that such answers were readily available, it became clear that my original premise, "government must exist", simply wasn't true.
You've used the example of Somalia, which I think actually helps to prove the anarcho-capitalism point, not diminish it. If you
look at the progress that Somalia has made since the fall of it's ruler, and since its neighboring countries and the US have laid off trying to impose artificial order, it's come along way in the last decade. In fact, it appears that it shows more promise than this country. Telecom companies (both wired and wireless services), banks, airlines, electrical companies, etc., are all thriving in the absence of government. This is especially impressive considering that the chaos that was experienced pre-1991 was far worse than the stateless conditions of Somalia today.
From the linked article:
"It takes just three days for a landline to be installed, compared with waiting times of many years in neighbouring Kenya, where a stable democratic government has been in place for half a century."
Ha! It takes me 1-2 weeks to get a landline installed in Phoenix

. You suggested that us anarchists move to Somalia. That's starting to look appealing.