why is it comforting that one is going to hell and can't do anything about it?
What I find comforting is the knowledge that hell is a fiction. It's a concept derived from pre-Christian pagans that was adopted by later religions because it frightened people into behaving and/or converting to the "right" religion.
Even the people who wrote the earlier works of the Old Testament didn't have any concept of hell. They only believed in a shadowy underworld ("Sheol") to which ALL dead people, good and bad alike, went after death. That's why we never see God threatening people with hell in the older books of the OT. Instead, he threatened them (or even their offspring) with earthly punishments or plain old death. The concept of eternal punishment didn't enter into some strains of Jewish literature until around the time of the Babylonian Captivity. No doubt the Jews got the concept from the pagans, and this rubbed off on the early Christians.
Consider what it would mean for hell and damnation to exist. First, it would mean that God created people solely for the purpose of sending them to hell. That would make God an unjust monster. Humans are
finite creatures, with
finite abilities, willpower, and awareness, so they simply cannot merit
infinite punishment. No one deserves to burn forever -- no one. This is common sense that has become all too uncommon. And before anyone says I'm not qualified to judge God's justice, the Bible itself says that I am (because Adam ate from the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil). Also, if we're not wise enough to criticize God, then we're not qualified to praise him, either. What good is praise from someone who doesn't have a good understanding of what he's praising?
Another point is that sin could not exist without God wanting it to exist (thus making sin no longer sinful, since it would be in accordance with God's will!). Why? Because if God is the Creator of everything and if God is omniscient, then
everything can be traced back to God. If sin is human misuse of free will, then that misuse was caused by flaws in human nature that were put there by God
deliberately. If Satan came to be as the result of angelic rebellion, then God had to have given Lucifer some character flaw (pride, malice) that God
knew in advance would cause Lucifer to rebel. In other words, no creature created by God, whether angel or man, would have rebelled unless God
wanted him to rebel and made sure it would happen by putting rebelliousness into that creature's personality.
Think about it this way. Why won't there be sin in heaven after the Final Judgment? What's going to prevent it? And whatever that is, why couldn't God have prevented sin the same way at the very beginning of creation, so that no one would ever sin?
Speaking of Satan, that's another concept that evolved over the course of Biblical history. Originally the Hebrews conceived of Satan ("accuser") as one of God's servants -- a kind of "prosecuting attorney," but still one of the "good guys." Only later did Christians make Satan into the main "bad guy." Historian Elaine Pagels discusses this process in detail in her book
The Origin of Satan.
The sheer number of inconsistencies with logic and known fact in the Bible is breathtaking. Even so, it took me a long time to give up Christianity, mainly because I was afraid to question my religion. Why was I afraid? Because of the threat of hell, of course. That's what it's there for -- to keep you from questioning. No wonder Christianity became so popular -- it carries the ultimate carrot (heaven) and the ultimate stick (hell), and believing (or pretending to believe) is so easy. Even if you think the risk of hell being real is only 0.0001%, the punishment is so unfathomable that you'll still be hesitant to risk it. (The way to get around this is to realize that many other religions threaten hell, too, and each poses about the same risk.)
Government enslaves our bodies; religion enslaves our minds.