The problem is that you and others on here view sex as a conquest; a game that is played.
No, sex is a lot of things and I really prefer not to view it as a conquest. Although for some women it is a conquest too, so that can be fun to participate with. For me tho it isn't a game, I don't really use the methods that PUAs talk about although it does interest me and I have studied it in the past when I've been especially desperate for female intimacy and trying to find what could make me more sexually attractive to females.
Sex is healthy, it is a biological imperative, it helps keep my senses and mood centered and more calm, it helps my focus. However it is also a way to bond either on a short term or long term basis with others, it can be like an adventure, it can be a way to show love to a significant other, a short term or long term partner.
The more women a guy sleeps with, the more of a "man" he is. The more alpha. It's very primal and hunter-gatherery.
Ya that is the reality, that isn't an idea that I promote or think is the most healthy in modern society. It may have worked well back in tribal times.
Just look how some of dudes on here talk about women. Women = sex. Nothing else. They have an extremely low opinion of them. Their view of gender and relationships is cringe inducing. They think they have all this esoteric knowledge of human relationship and understand women, but yet they have no idea how to connect to the opposite sex. It all centers around "getting laid", "sex drives", and "dominate men/submissive women".
Well I hope you aren't referring to me, but I'm not quite sure who else here you'd be referring to. I think sex is an important part of a relationship, at least for most people. But I certainly don't think of women as only for sex, I connect with females on a lot of things besides just sex. But since I don't display these traits it amplifies my need for sex when I'm not in a relationship. I keep saying my behavior is pretty much the exact opposite of the PUAs, and I am merely lamenting that the way I behave is to my detriment sexually because I'm not able to act like these guys.
You have a whole other thread where you're trying to figure out how you can get off of some very dangerous and addictive prescription drugs because you have issues with anxiety. Well, I have issues with anxiety too.. the difference is I already know my cure. Cannabis goes 50% of the way and having regular sex goes the other 50% of the way. At that point my general anxiety is gone. Sure, things can happen in my life that cause me to be anxious but it is easily controllable whereas when I don't have sex or I'm not smoking weed, I have general anxiety when it is not necessary. Not every guy needs to smoke weed, but a lot of guys do need to have sex occasional to decrease their general anxiety and withholding for longer periods of time can cause psychological trauma for some men.
Are there women out there who want to be submissive or treated badly? Sure. There are women out there who want to be dominate as well.
I think most people though, desire a relationship where there is mutual respect and compatibility. Obviously sexual attraction ties into this, but sex does not sustain a relationship. I think most normal people want a relationship (both men and women).
Yes, that's why I say that the whole thing for women is a dichotomy. Do you know what that means? It's like an internal struggle by two opposing forces. Women can succumb either way at any moment in their life potentially because women's feelings an emotions are usually more dynamic and fluid. Men's feelings and emotions are generally more static and predictable. Women can consciously decide to be with a guy they have less base attraction for and consciously increase their attraction for them based on the reasons they hold that attraction. Or they can subconsciously be attracted to a guy who is controlling and dominant.
