What Do Women Want?

[Acala]

Love

Jesus! My Parents are married and alive and just celebrated their 50th Anniversary.

You guys lost the love somewhere.

Am I wrong, or is love an agreement and sex a payment?

Love is an emotion= a tangle of body sensations and thinking processes.

A relationship is a very complex and largely unspoken agreement negotiated over time and as to which the two parties may have a misunderstanding of terms.

Sex is one aspect of most relationships that should in itself be a benefit to both parties rather than a payment by one to the other.

 

[MelissaWV]

I will admit it: I skimmed over most of the responses when they started to repeat and become a bit insulting and depressing.

What *I* want (I can't speak for other women, really):

- A guy who appreciates the fact I do a lot for him. This appreciation can take pretty much any form. A smile for the fact that I cook better than most folks, for instance, or a complimentary statement to his co-worker or friend in my presence. No, I don't nag when it doesn't happen.

- Someone who at least tries to be employed. I supported someone for five years, and let's just say I didn't make enough money to keep that up. I don't need to be supported but lugging dead weight sucks.

- Someone who's comfortable with themselves. Geek? Freak? Blind? Missing his middle fingers? Socially awkward? As long as he's okay with himself, I'm okay with him.

- A guy who can figure out what I want, and do that. I don't need fancy dinner, jewelry, or whatever else one stereotypes a woman as wanting. I hate shopping. Bring me home something, anything, that shows you thought of my comfort while we were apart.

I don't dig the whole "rape" fantasy thing. What's really missing here is the fact that these "fantasies" are unrealistic; they're fantasies and that's how they roll. I mean, many men fantasize about lesbians going at it. Does that mean they want to see every pair of lesbians? Think carefully. Think Rosie & Ellen going at it like weasels. Really, really happy randy hairy weasels. Yeah. I thought not. The fantasies are about loss of control, and on the flip side how many men have thought of being tied down by a sultry vixen who uses them as her personal plaything for a week?

 

[dannno]

on the flip side how many men have thought of being tied down by a sultry vixen who uses them as her personal plaything for a week?

:o

Check your PM

 

[Ozwest]

Love is an emotion= a tangle of body sensations and thinking processes.

A relationship is a very complex and largely unspoken agreement negotiated over time and as to which the two parties may have a misunderstanding of terms.

Sex is one aspect of most relationships that should in itself be a benefit to both parties rather than a payment by one to the other.

Stop it your giving me a stiffy.

Cut the politically correct meanderings.

If a woman responds to my previous post I'll succeed.

But I'm right. And most women will agree.

 

[Ozwest]

I repeat.

Women don't want sensitive new age guys.

They want men.

 

[Acala]

Reply

YOU make it seem like conquest, with the kicker of capricious termination of services and no pension. .

I don't consider myself to be capricious with other people's feelings. In fact, I have of late become essentially celibate BECAUSE I am afraid I will hurt women's feelings if I am not really sure a new relationship will last. Endless opportunities for conquest and none I wish to pursue because I don't really care about conquest in itself and I don't want to hurt people's feelings. Ha! A conundrum.

The reason I am piping up is not because I am interested in your dating behavior – again, so there’s no misunderstanding or insult – but because I sense that you are championing rather than merely presently trauma-based advise.

I am trying to pass on to you and anyone else who needs it some hard-earned wisdom about the nature of men and women. I have suffered as a result of my former misunderstanding. My suffering, and that of others, could have been avoided if someone had given me this advice when I was young and I had taken it to heart. I pass it on to help others avoid same.

It is offered with the best of intentions. Take it or leave it as you choose. But years from now, remember what Old Acala said:

No woman worth having wants a man she can step on.

Don't ever be a servant boy, a doormat, or a windsock.

When you fully and truly embrace the realization that you would rather be alone than be with a woman who doesn't respect you, you will never have to be either.

Peace, Patriot!

 

[cheapseats]

I will admit it: I skimmed over most of the responses when they started to repeat and become a bit insulting and depressing.

What *I* want (I can't speak for other women, really):

- A guy who appreciates the fact I do a lot for him. This appreciation can take pretty much any form. A smile for the fact that I cook better than most folks, for instance, or a complimentary statement to his co-worker or friend in my presence. No, I don't nag when it doesn't happen.

- Someone who at least tries to be employed. I supported someone for five years, and let's just say I didn't make enough money to keep that up. I don't need to be supported but lugging dead weight sucks.

- Someone who's comfortable with themselves. Geek? Freak? Blind? Missing his middle fingers? Socially awkward? As long as he's okay with himself, I'm okay with him.

- A guy who can figure out what I want, and do that. I don't need fancy dinner, jewelry, or whatever else one stereotypes a woman as wanting. I hate shopping. Bring me home something, anything, that shows you thought of my comfort while we were apart.

I don't dig the whole "rape" fantasy thing. What's really missing here is the fact that these "fantasies" are unrealistic; they're fantasies and that's how they roll. I mean, many men fantasize about lesbians going at it. Does that mean they want to see every pair of lesbians? Think carefully. Think Rosie & Ellen going at it like weasels. Really, really happy randy hairy weasels. Yeah. I thought not. The fantasies are about loss of control, and on the flip side how many men have thought of being tied down by a sultry vixen who uses them as her personal plaything for a week?

What fun to find this post -- good on you!

How totally normal and more-than-reasonable does this woman sound? Someone better snap her up, but quick.

Me, I'm pretty much done cooking. It was never a skill, it was never a pleasure -- I cooked-I-use-the-term-loosely my son's favorite meal the night before he left for university and I haven't cooked since. Not once, going on three years. Not exactly a plus on my resume, but I'm still hopeful . . . in a what's-the-alternative kinda way. Plus I'm an excellent laundress. I don't like to LEAD with that, but I can always haul it out if negotiations get tough.

In for a penny, in for a pound, eh? May as well get a separate gmail address and post it. That's what I'm gonna do. There are many more readers than posters . . . like discovering extra life boats on the Titanic.

 

[cheapseats]

Yeah anyway, enough of the political correctness, or have you lost your bollocks?

Not bloody likely, mate.

I have been accused of many things and many of them have been true, but I am NEVER accused of political correctness. I cannot abide political correctness.

You agree, I trust, that political correctness is distinct from tact/diplomacy/manners et al.

 

[Kludge]

 

[Ozwest]

Not bloody likely, mate.

I have been accused of many things and many of them have been true, but I am NEVER accused of political correctness. I cannot abide political correctness.

You agree, I trust, that political correctness is distinct from tact/diplomacy/manners et al.

Fair call. I respect your fortitude.

Peace in the Valley.

 

[cheapseats]

Fair call. I respect your fortitude.

Respect is a big deal.

Peace in the Valley.

Peace SOMEWHERE.

Willing to relocate is disingenuous. I'm outta here at month's end.

 

[cheapseats]

I reckon there 2 types of women.

Ones seeking metro sexuals and others seeking real men.

After reading this, I purposefully made an inconvenient stop this evening in order to get particular photos of particular mannequins sporting particular metrosexual uber-skinny, hyper-matched, slightly-sparkly ensembles.

Alas, an unfamiliar camera and a misplaced cord . . . Would surrender TV remote control for technical assistance.

Or are we talking Crocodile-Dundee-outback-no-appliances-stuff? Swiss Family Robinson Down Under is not without conceptual charm.

 

[Ozwest]

Peace should be shared between self-reliant individuals.

 

[Ozwest]

After reading this, I purposefully made an inconvenient stop this evening in order to get particular photos of particular mannequins sporting particular metrosexual uber-skinny hyper-matched outfits.

Alas, an unfamiliar camera and a misplaced cord . . . Would surrender TV remote control for technical assistance.

Or are we talking Crocodile-Dundee-outback-no-appliances-stuff? Swiss Family Robinson Down Under is not without conceptual charm.

Now we're into sub-classifications.

Let me sharpen my pencil...

 

[cheapseats]

Peace should be shared between self-reliant individuals.

I will go a step further and suggest that peace can ONLY be shared amongst self-reliant individuals. As soon as relationships are skewed by need and balance of power, peace is detente.

 

[Ozwest]

After reading this, I purposefully made an inconvenient stop this evening in order to get particular photos of particular mannequins sporting particular metrosexual uber-skinny, hyper-matched, slightly-sparkly ensembles.

Alas, an unfamiliar camera and a misplaced cord . . . Would surrender TV remote control for technical assistance.

Or are we talking Crocodile-Dundee-outback-no-appliances-stuff? Swiss Family Robinson Down Under is not without conceptual charm.

Crocodile Dundee?

I lived in South Chicago for 9 years (Your Prez's stomping ground).

I'll show you a knife.

 

[cheapseats]

Crocodile Dundee?

I lived in South Chicago for 9 years (Your Prez's stomping ground).

I'll show you a knife.

I was born in the Midwest. You?

 

[Ozwest]

I was born in the Midwest. You?

Chicago Blues Boy...

 

[Ozwest]

I was born in the Midwest. You?

Where do you call home?

 

[cheapseats]

Where do you call home?

Los Angeles, for another two weeks.