dannno
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Consensual sex is usually between 2 people who've known each other for a while.
Um, ok, but I've had multiple girls walk up to me and we started making out before even saying a word to each other... one of them grabbed my hand and stuck it up her skirt. Was that not consensual? I mean, for me, she FORCED me to touch her private parts!! I'll tell you it was absolutely consensual, I wanted to do that, and I thank her for grabbing my hand and putting it down there. But the point is your whole idea of what consensual sex is, is kinda skewed from the reality of the situation many times.
According to most the women who had altercations w/Trump they did back away, etc- one was already backed up against a wall.
I don't trust any of this stuff coming out right now 100%, it could all be completely fabricated by the Hillary machine..
Also, if the perp is your boss, it might be a little scary to tell him to get the hell away from you.
Many women have been assaulted by men and no amount of pushing or telling them to stop it does any good. Men are also usually bigger, stronger, and more intimidating. Rape is not a myth and women experience a lot of non-consensual crap all the time.
Look, I'm totally with you on the the whole not being physical and intimidating to women, but what you are describing sounds more like what Clinton did than what Trump has ever been accused of (until recently). And you're right, there are real rapes and real sexual assaults - but there is also some things that start out similarly but is actually the opposite. The reason I don't give Clinton a pass on his antics is because mutliple women have reported him biting their nose, and they push away and have to scream and get somebody's attention- they were afraid he was going to rape them. That doesn't sit right with me...
But let me explain something to you - the book 50 shades of gray has that title for a really good reason.
Remember when I said I've had multiple women come up to me and we started making out before even speaking? That's called spontaneity. Some of the horniest women LIKE spontaneity, and what you are saying basically is that men should act neutered and not make passes at these type of women, because there are some women out there who don't like it.. But the fact is men need to act spontaneous and a bit forward in order to engage these women, otherwise other men will and they will miss out on the sex. That's why powerful men tend to act like this, because it works well and it gets them some of the hottest women with the highest sex drives.
Men have EVERY RIGHT to employ these tactics as long as they don't go over the line - that means if a woman pushes back, says no in a serious tone you stop - caveat - sometimes women say "no" with a smile on their face and a sparkle in their eye - many times this is a signal they actually want you to keep going, they are just playing hard to get - SERIOUSLY - it makes them feel less slutty even though you are doing exactly what they want you to do... this creates a problem though, because some girls say no and still want it, and so some guys might confuse the next girl saying no for wanting it and they push forward and this creates sexual trauma for these women - it's a tricky situation, but it's women being manipulative who have created it, so.... it's hard to blame some men for this if they have made an honest mistake - on the other hand, for some men it isn't a mistake, they are just being pushy because they are rapey. Two similar situations, two completely different motivations... This is a lot more complex than it appears from the outset.
Another very important point is, the VAST MAJORITY of men who employ these tactics and are more straightforward and aggressive WILL STOP if a woman pushes back or says "no" with a serious tone.. It's just a part of life that women have to deal with, because some women enjoy when men act this way and reward them with sex. Want it to stop? Tell the women to stop rewarding men with sex for this behavior and the men still stop TOMORROW... Unfortunately for some, a man trying to be spontaneous is going to trigger memories of past trauma, and that is unfavorable - but guess what??? That isn't the spontaneous guy's fault, that is the fault of the guy who was being physically aggressive who implanted that trauma. So again, this is a very tricky subject but let's not go around blaming men when women are the ones shaping their behavior with sexual rewards.