Start your new year learning 'The Secret'.

[osan]

OK Danno, I'm going to help you here, though not in the way you desire. Trust me when I tell you that this will be MUCH better, if your mind is open, which it probably is not.

Firstly, you need to get yourself alone in a room where you can relax mentally and physically. Then you might want a nice neat glass of a good single malt or similar beverage. I recommend against blazing up, if you are into that sort of thing, because it tends to fuck up people's thinking processes, contrary to the strident protestations some make in denial.

Once you're in a good position, read this:

...decided that she 'wanted to see other people... out of nowhere... still live together... already seeing somebody else... is unemployed, lives in a trailer next to his parents house... totaled her car

Now, let that settle in for a minute or two without thinking on it too strenuously. After perhaps two minutes, now read this:

still madly in love... will do anything to get her back... don't know what to do... can't stop it... losing the woman of my life...

I am assuming you do not see the problem that should be shrieking its message at you because you are in an impaired psychological state. Therefore, I am going to help you with some explicit observations.

Firstly, this "girl" is hella fucked up. If your description is accurate, you should be on your knees to your Maker with tear-laden eyes thanking Him for having removed a cancerous tumor from your life. I know you will likely not find this observation very pleasing and I know exactly why, being as I too have been in your shoes. But believe me when I tell you that if you have any sense at all and the least epsilon of self-respect, you will let her go and than God almighty that she is gone. Furthermore, regardless of what she may ask of, or promise to you at some future date when she discovers her error, you will not let her back into your life because if you do you may as well drink Dran-0 and get the agony over with greater dispatch and less net-suffering.

Right, proper, decent, trustworthy people do not do shit like this. She is either filth or is ultra-damaged. Either way, you have to be madder than a hatter to want such a person in your life.

but I see the person I care most about making horrible decisions.

Yeah well, guess what: you don't get to make her decisions; she does, and they are no longer your business. I'd be more worried about the fate of the dog if she is taking him, which I would not allow if I could stop it.

I have been trying to use the concepts I learned prior to going out with her to get her back and so far no luck.

That's God telling you to snap the fuck out of it. Women are a dime a dozen, especially today and in America. Most are not worth a damn. A GOOD woman is much tougher to find.

And please for your own sake, cut the shit with the "soul mate" nonsense, because that is all it is. Just as I have said to countless women over the years who spew this contemporary "the one" bullshit, I will tell you that there is AT LEAST one million women distributed across the face of the globe with whom you could have a very satisfying and happy life, so cut the crap, get hold of yourself, cowboy up, get real, get your senses in order, realize you've been in love with a fuck-nut, and go on with life. Trust me, this ain't nowhere near the end of the world. It is probably God saving you from disasters you cannot now foresee, so show some humility, some smarts, some self-respect, and forget this dead end. If you need to get laid, $50 should get you there I would imagine... something that Elliot Rodgers fag could not dope out for himself.

Visualize my soul mate falling back in love with me - meditate - send positive energy into the universe.

Sorry, but even though I've never met you face to face, I would never do such a shitty thing. I know you will disagree with me because I know how these things go, but I've been there more times than I care to recall and will not involve myself in acts serving only to damage one of my fellows.

As God is my witness I say to you with utmost confidence that if you keep your shit together, weather the suck, and come out the other side without having simpered-wheedled your way back, the day will come when you will wonder, "what was I thinking?" Happens every time because that "soul mate" is never really as great as one remembers in the wake.

I will try and keep you guys up to date if it works out.

Seems to me it already has. You got a break - a really good one... and now you're trying to get your neck back in the noose. You really need to re-think that. IMO, of course.

 

[CaptUSA]

Ok, so I promised in another thread to explain how these principles have changed my life recently.

Shortly before the end of last year, I was frustrated. With lots of things, but mainly with life in general. I was getting bored with my job and wanted a different one, wanted my marriage to be easier, wanted to move, I wanted more money... I just wanted a change. I was becoming unhappy personally and frustrated with the political environment... I just had so much negativity weighing me down. To change that, I followed some of Napoleon Hill's advice and wrote down in detail everything I wanted and what I planned to give in order to receive it. Shortly after that, Deborah started this thread and I started looking into this stuff.

I'm telling you, the change has been dramatic. Almost miraculous.

I was offered a job on a project that I think has huge potential to change the world. With this, comes a little more money, but I get more value in other ways. I am excited to go into work and my excitement rubs off on other people on the project.

My marriage has never been better.

On Monday, I just closed on a new house. When I looked back at what I wrote down last year, it is amazing how close reality is to what I wished for. I asked for a secluded property with water access and the ability to be self-sustaining. When we were looking for houses, we went to about 40 houses in one day. As we were looking around, I wasn't even thinking about my wish list. It was a distant memory at that point. By the time we were done with the day, I had totally dismissed this property because the rooms in the house weren't as big as the other houses and it was older. But after a few days, I was being drawn back to this house. It sits on a 200+ acre lake that attaches to another lake. I have my own dock and the fishing here is tremendous and the waterfowl is abundant. I have an endless supply of fresh protein anytime I want it. The house is private. I have 1 neighbor on my part of the lake, but we are separated by a thick line of trees - can't even see them until I get out onto the water. The house has a strong artesian well with crystal clean water. There is plenty of room for gardening and fruit trees (might have to wait til next year to plant most things, though.) There are plenty of rooms for visitors and lots of storage. There are 4 outbuildings including a boathouse and a huge garage with a built-in air compressor and an engine crane. There are 2 kitchens in the house and 3 woodburners. Finally, the front of the property sits on an access road for some of the other lakes which makes it perfect for political signage, yard sales, or anything else we want to advertise.

Now, this property was at the top of our budget and we thought it would be out of range. But the home-owners accepted our offer which was way low. Then, the agreed to repair all the items we found in our inspection at their cost! It was as if I was willing it to happen. And the perhaps the best part is that we had the property appraised by the lender and insurance and both of them came in over $50K more than what we paid. So, instantly on Monday, I became $50K richer.

All along the way during this process, there were things that could have gone wrong, but they just fell into place for me. And I know why. I am making my own reality, now. I lost sight of it somewhere along the way, but I have it back now. Not only have good things been happening on a daily basis, but I've been getting some incredibly clear ideas. In fact, I've been getting so much direction, I'm a little overwhelmed with the possibilities. I'm giving myself the fall and winter to get settled in, but next spring, I will have to make a decision about which opportunity to follow.

My wife is amazed by all of this, but hasn't quite figured it out yet. She knows she wants to be around it, but still allows negativity to linger in her. Fortunately, I make most of the big decisions in our home, but there are still bad things that happen to her. Once we are all moved in, though, I am going to get her to see things like I am seeing them. Hopefully, lakeside meditation will help with that. She's not too far away, but she doesn't quite trust it yet. She has always believed that positive things and negative things balance out. That's a hard belief to shake for her.

My advice to everyone is that this works. It's a little hard to explain in words how to get yourself into this mode, but there are things you need to do. GIVE. Give to others as much as you can. Not just money, but in your thoughts. Care about people and wish the best for them. If you wish them harm, or are jealous of them, it will only come back to bite you. Second, develop a real sense of gratitude. Find times each day to be grateful for things. Finally, follow the signs. Everything that happens to you, everything you see, hear, smell, or read are trying to guide you. It's hard to pay attention to them while they are happening, but it's cool when you can sense it.

Finally... Deborah! Thank you. You have no idea how this OP affected things. You may have thought you just posted it because you thought it was cool or interesting, but on my end, it was a signal to direct me towards a clearer path. (This is the way interaction happens. Those who are placed in front of you have no idea how they are being used to create your own reality. Normally, I wouldn't tell anyone about it because they don't know what you're talking about, but for the purposes of this understanding, I think it's useful.)

 

[SilentBull]

This is a gross oversimplification and really kind of insulting.

When Josh had this clip posted for every member to watch, did you give him shit about it?

Love it. Heard this for the first time a few months ago.

 

[ProIndividual]

Next we'll be told that homeopathic "medicine" actually works beyond the placebo/nocebo effect. Yikes, the unscientific, illogical, irrational mind of some...

One word best sums up this new ageist nonsense: unfalsifiable.