Sanford admits to affair

[Carole]

It's a personal thing.

I mean, we really don't know the circumstances.

I'm pretty sure a lot of women here will get mad for me saying this, but if she was holding out on him then I place the blame equally on both of them. If I were married for years and years and my wife started holding out on sex, I don't know that I would hunt for it but if the sex came to me I would take it without any moral qualms. That doesn't mean I would leave her, and it looks like he doesn't want that to happen. I guess you have to be male to understand, but sex is a completely different thing for guys.

I don't know if this was the situation or not, it's all speculation, but I wouldn't really say this is a lack of character neccessarily.. more like a sign of a strong libido. If he has the will to stay and support his family and leave behind the slut, then that is what matters.

He was a war hawk anyway, so no biggie.

Of course it demonstrates a lack of character!!!

And then there is this:

"I mean, we really don't know the circumstances.

I'm pretty sure a lot of women here will get mad for me saying this, but if she was holding out on him ..."

You try to excuse him and shift the blame to his wife immediately.

Your comment makes me want to puke.

(Thanks for the edit Bryan)

 

[georgiaboy]

Best for Sanford's political career if he stays married, ala the Clintons. Be adults - admit, confess, reconcile, forgive, move on.

Hopefully the marriage is strong enough to withstand a blow like this. It'll never be the same, but hope it's strong enough to hold.

 

[SimpleName]

Why do they need to divorce just so he can stick his you know what into a nice you know what??

They have kids, he can still do that and come back to the family and take care of them. Obviously it's not an optimal situation, but there's no reason to divorce just cause the guy wanted to get his you know what wet.

As long as the wife knew about it, surely he could've taken that path. But assuming she was not ok with the situation, divorce would have been much more healthy.

You do make a good point though. If his wife just deals with it and he is still taking proper care of his children, I would guess there is little harm done.

 

[dannno]

Bur your remark: "he can still do that and come back to the family and take care of them" gives no consideration at all to his wife and the devastation she must be feeling. I feel terrible for her. Sanford is a scum bag.

You might be right, he could be scumbag, but we don't really know the situation. If she was holding out then I don't really blame him. It really depends on the situation, and you would have to be one of them to really understand.

 

[ladyjade3]

This is why women should rule the world.

 

[LibertyEagle]

You might be right, he could be scumbag, but we don't really know the situation. If she was holding out then I don't really blame him. It really depends on the situation, and you would have to be one of them to really understand.

The man cheated on his wife. He broke his vow to her. He was wrong.

END OF STORY.

 

[MRoCkEd]

now the networks have plenty of news for the next year

 

[pinkmandy]

Yeah, this is getting really weird.

I think the DK article is a joke. Just trying to capitalize on the scandal. Going to go edit my op so others are aware of that.

 

[georgiaboy]

Dannno's on point - it's between the two of them, and affairs are not always one-sided. There are marriages that survive affairs, and I hope Sanford's does.

Not justifying affairs, or any hurtful activities that betray the marriage bond. The vow, however, does say "for better or for worse" for a reason. Divorce is sometimes just one more ugliness that compounds matters.

 

[NYgs23]

I don't see what a personal failing has to do with his political activities. He admitted it. It's between him and his wife.

 

[georgiaboy]

The man cheated on his wife. He broke his vow to her. He was wrong.

END OF STORY.

He was wrong, yes. But end of story? That's probably not the case.

 

[moostraks]

Oh boy.

Eta I'm pretty sure this is a joke...just DK trying to get some site hits I'm sure.

http://www.dailykos.com/story/2009/6/24/0527/71296



1. Writing
2. Hiking
3. Argentina w/mistress
4. Colorado w/gay prostitute

Seems to me someone is out to ruin this man. And it would not shock me to find out his 'confession' was totally fake to protect his family. "You had an affair. You will resign. Or else.".

I mean, can't he just arrange business trips or whatever like most cheaters when he wants to visit a lover? Something STINKS here. Big time. Why couldn't he trust his own staff all of a sudden?

Welcome to the twilight zone of political intrigue. This one is over the top, but so is most news nowadays. This story is in bizarro land, and the level of play it is getting seems disproportionate.

 

[MCockerill08]

If you can't be loyal to your wife (and more importantly, your kids) than how the hell can you be trusted with the massive (usually evil) power of the state?

If you want to screw around, don't get married. If you can't stand your wife, get a divorce. But you don't cheat on your wife. I'm sorry if that's old fashioned, but it really disgusts me in most cases. (and i'm fairly moderate socially)

Also, I hate it when these parasites claim that this is a "private issue." If you were supporting yourself with PRODUCTIVE LABOR then it certainly would be, but Sanford (like all other bureaucrats) is a "public official," in that he is LIVING OFF THE TAXPAYER! He's as subject to our judgment and discipline as an unruly teenager is to his parents.

IN any case, I never bought this guy's devotion to the liberty movement. No anti-war, anti-statist, pro-market libertarian would pander to creeps like Newt Gingrich.

 

[sluggo]

DAILY KOS story is bullshit.

Snark.
I lied.
The hotel name's legit -- I looked that up. It was the one farthest from the Colorado Springs Airport (also looked up).
The danger fetish ("Oh no he's going to be back soon gotta hurry up") was invented.
Snark, all of it. Lies. As Twain would say, only not, lies, damn lies, and snark.

 

[dannno]

The man cheated on his wife. He broke his vow to her. He was wrong.

END OF STORY.

No, she could have broken her vows to him as well. When a woman holds out, I believe she is breaking her vows. That's just my male opinion that most women can't comprehend, but.. ya.. if you wanna talk about vows let's take it from both sides.

 

[Danke]

This is why women should rule the world.

They don't?

 

[moostraks]

Don't forget Blagojevich.

Good one, I had forgotten about him...

 

[pinkmandy]

He was wrong, yes. But end of story? That's probably not the case.

Ita. It's the end of the story as far as MSM is concerned, though. Who knows what the truth really is...would you lie and say you had an affair if people wanted you out of office? How about to protect your family? Your children? These guys play hardball. How do we know he didn't 'disappear', out from the watchful eyes of those who watch him, to do something they wouldn't like? Even expose them? His disappearance is very odd. He could have just arranged a vacation. Or a trip to visit his lover. It's done all the time. It's like he couldn't trust anyone, not even his own staff, to know where he was going. And the timing- right after some big political battles and on Father's Day weekend? I know that's heading way into conspiracy, and maybe he did just have an affair and that's all there is to it, but how would we know? This sort of thing seems to happen a lot. Especially during times when distractions are needed.


It's all fishy to me.

 

[puppetmaster]

lol wow

It's just an affair and the *only* person who deserves to know, his wife, knew about it 5 months ago, what's the big deal?

if you do not have morals than you cannot be trusted .....bottom line

 

[Johnnybags]

It matters how old she was

If she is 25yr old Argentine model his career is dead, if she is 45 yr old bag he has a chance. My guess is the former. I'll say a 26 yr old former Miss Argentina contestant.