Biblefundyfun, your characterization that Catholics have cognitive dissonance is outside the scope of this "Peace Through Religion" forum where the objective is: "Respectful discussion of religious topics and their surrounding philosophies with the primary purpose of peaceful social exchange and personal enrichment to help bring forth a better world." This is not a free-for-all to bash others religion. Your statement is also on the collectivist side as it insinuates that is something that all Catholics experience.
There are reasonable and friendly ways to have this discussion where you can seek the answers you wish, you just have to focus on bring respectful.
None-the-less, to take your statement at face value it could easily be addressed by simple observation without being a Catholic. For starters, it would be important to understand what you consider as "systemic", obviously there have been problems in the past but the issue becomes what steps have been taken to correct the problem and if they go far enough. Some people may be happy with the steps while others may not, and are fighting for further reform.
As for the "still proud" comment, I do not think that there are any outstanding people that would be proud of what happened, but that does not mean that they can't be proud of the faith of what they believe in. It is a logically fallacy to attempt to conflate these two items which you seem to be doing here. This tactic is typically done to get a rise out of people, but when it's spotted and understood it just make the person using the tactic look bad.
We can agree that it would be poor form for Catholics to blame-shift any of this issue saying it happens every where but the comments of "holly wood directors and Muslim leaders" just seems like more red meat to try to get people stirred up and is not a good way to start of a good discussion.
I hope this helps.