Amy [Amy31416] Memorial Thread

Lord have mercy on her soul. May she find forgiveness and mercy by your abundant love. Bless also those who pray for her and who are giving from themselves in order to assist her child in mourning.
 
What day is it? These past few have been a blur. Surprised I'm not in the hospital for dehydration, I've been crying so much.

I recently asked Amy to marry me. It wasn't the first time. While it wasn't a hard YES! she did indicate that she was seriously interested. (JOY, JOY, do a little jig, HAPPY dance time!), but she added that she was working through some things and needed some time and space right now. I gave them to her. Didn't push it AT ALL! The news of her passing, well...

TOTALLY *DEVASTATED* ME!

I had always intended to adopt Meris, but I had also always imagined Amy being by my side to help raise her. The idea of raising a 3yo by myself never crossed my mind. The concept is, well, umm slightly "terrifying" - yeah, that was the word I was looking for. I've given this some serious consideration, and yes, if her family is willing, I would like to take Meris in and raise her. It's the least I could do for Amy. I did some googling and single people have adopted kids in the past. It's possible.

Amy and I were like 2 peas in a pod. We both love science. We both have home labs. I was looking forward to merging ours. We both have awesome libraries. Again, I was looking forward to merging them. We both love gardening. She was teaching Meris sign, which I do not know. I'd love to expose her to a few other languages, like Russian, Arabic, German, DNA and assembly. I would have to upgrade my cooking and baking skills if I ever have a chance of being surrogate Amy v2.0

I'm deeply in love with Amy. This really breaks my heart. :(

I have never before spent 3 hours composing a post. Most of that time was pondering.

Really kicking myself for not making that 10 hour drive :(

-t
 
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Tangent4ronpaul, your love will always be there, in your heart, even as years will pass by, and so does her love for you remain alive, for love never fails. The time here is short. Our final destination is, however, eternal.

The family should decide what is best for the child. This doesn't mean that we cannot give of ourselves out of the love we have for her and her mother. Indeed, we should and must, to the benefit of Meris, Amy, and even of ourselves. Love would have it no other way. And this is the love which brings peace, comfort, hope, and understanding. May the Lord our God bless you my friend.
 
Uniform Gifts to Minors Act
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Uniform_Gifts_to_Minors_Act

The Uniform Gifts to Minors Act (UGMA) is an act in some states of the United States that allows assets such as securities, where the donor has given up all possession and control, to be held in the custodian's name for the benefit of the minor without an attorney needing to set up a special trust fund. This allows a minor in the United States to have property set aside for the minor's benefit and may achieve some income tax benefit for the child's parents. Once the child reaches the age of majority (18 or 21 depending on the state), the assets become the property of the child and the child can use them for any purpose. Contributing money to an UGMA account on another person's behalf could be subject to gift tax; however, the Internal Revenue Code of the United States allows persons to give up to the annual gift tax exclusion to another person without any gift tax consequences, and gifts exceeding that amount as long as total gifts are below the lifetime limits.

In the majority of states that have adopted the Uniform Transfers to Minors Act (UTMA), the assets are treated similarly. The assets are held in the custodian's name until the child reaches age of majority. States that adopted UTMA also repealed UGMA; UTMA specifically provides that contracts in UTMA states which reference UGMA are governed by UTMA. Thus, UGMA is often still referred to in contracts designed for use in multiple states, even though it may actually mean UTMA in a particular state. Under the UGMA or UTMA, the ownership of the funds works like it does with any other trust and the donor must appoint a custodian (the trustee) to look after the account for the benefit of the beneficiary.

Until 1986, a UGMA or UTMA account allowed the assets to be taxed at the minor's income tax bracket. Tax law changes in 1986, 2006 and 2007 known as the "kiddie tax" have substantially reduced the tax savings of UGMAs and UTMAs. The current rule is that for beneficiaries under 19 (23 if a student), the first $1,000 of income is tax-free, the second $1,000 is taxed at the minor's rate (typically zero or 15%), and the amount over $2,000 is taxed at the parent's rate. Minors can also invest in the stock market.[1]

One negative effect of UGMA or UTMA assets for minors who plan to attend college is that financial aid is typically reduced by 20-25% of the UGMA or UTMA balance. Some financial advisers therefore advise depleting the balance in these accounts, always for purposes benefiting the minor such as summer camp, books, computer and similar expenses, well before the minor begins the process of applying to college.

-t
 
I personally like the 529 but I am happy to contribute in this endeavor.
 
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Tangent4ronpaul, your love will always be there, in your heart, even as years will pass by, and so does her love for you remain alive, for love never fails. The time here is short. Our final destination is, however, eternal.

The family should decide what is best for the child. This doesn't mean that we cannot give of ourselves out of the love we have for her and her mother. Indeed, we should and must, to the benefit of Meris, Amy, and even of ourselves. Love would have it no other way. And this is the love which brings peace, comfort, hope, and understanding. May the Lord our God bless you my friend.
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You must spread some rep around before...

Can anyone cover me?

-t
 
Another note from Amy's brother, who has read this thread:

Amy's Brother said:
I do appreciate all of the nice things that have been said about my sister. It is appreciated.

I wouldn't say that Amy and I were not close. Of course, she wanted and was willing to go many places. I, on the other hand, have stayed in the same place all my life. We didn't live close by each other, but if she ever needed anything, I was a phone call (or keystroke) away."
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Yeah, poor choice of words. Sorry. She left no doubt in my mind she trusted you and was genuinely fond of you.
 
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I'm sorry to hear that. I never got to know Amy too well on these boards. It makes me wish I had.
 
I never got to know amy either. I guess that'd be true for a lot of people on here as well. Nonetheless, this saddens me a lot. My deepest condolences for those who were close to her and family. :(
 
I don't hang out on these forums much anymore, and almost wish I hadn't seen this thread now. I remember chatting with Amy in the chatroom years ago, PM'd her a few times when she first showed up here... I always thought she was cool, and knew she was super smart.

What it unclear to me is, I thought Kludge and Amy got married or something? Did they, and now are divorced? Not that it really matters, I'm just curious.

Anyway, this news is terribly saddening, and for some odd reason my feeling of grief is way more intense than I'd have anticipated. My condolences to all who knew her. RPF will not be the same with out her. May God bless her soul, and comfort those she leaves behind.

:(
 
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youngbuck said:
I don't hang out on these forums much anymore, and almost wish I hadn't seen this thread now. I remember chatting with Amy in the chatroom years ago, PM'd her a few times when she first showed up here... I always thought she was cool, and knew she was super smart.

What it unclear to me is, I thought Kludge and Amy got married or something? Did they, and now are divorced? Not that it really matters, I'm just curious.

Anyway, this new is terribly saddening, and for some odd reason my feeling of grief is way more intense than I'd have anticipated. My condolences to all who knew her. RPF will not be the same with out her. May God bless her soul, and comfort those she leaves behind.

:(
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I'm pretty sure it was a common law marriage. No state license.
 
I would think that the biological father should have legal rights to raise the child unless he is proven unfit. I also think that if DCF took away a child from a fit biological parent after a parent died or that parent was denied custody this forum would have a post about it.
 
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