Amy [Amy31416] Memorial Thread

[Danke]

I think that's her first husband or a BF. I don't know what Kludge looks like. Nearby pics seem 2006.

She was a hottie for sure! looks good in that outfit.

-t

Neither, both are taller than her. BF, maybe. First husband was thin too. Kludge is a big man.

 

[erowe1]

Not really. I have a call in to the funeral director asking for her brothers contact information. If that doesn't pan out I can probably find his contact info on the net and failing that I have the name of the family priest...

Step 2: set up a bank account.
Step 3: chipin or Paypal
Step 4: advertise and start a thread!

-t

If a family member is involved, then a 529 fund is probably what we want.

 

[Nirvikalpa]

I remember back in 08/09 we would voice chat with caseyjones, Petar, Mrocked, Jeremy, forsmant, and a lot of other people.. I haven't laughed much harder than when she would make a snide comment about one of us or make fun of me for being jewish. she had incredible wit and timing..

I remember talking to her about cooking and baking and sharing a ton of recipes and tips.. she was my go-to for this stuff for a long time.

I remember most recently how much she loved her daughter.. I could tell so clearly that meris was the most important thing in her life. I enjoyed how much she adored her daughter and enjoyed spending time with her.. I cant understand that shes actually gone though.. it is not something I have comprehended all at once.

Good friggin' times, I'll never forget those video chats.

Amy and I had a lot of talks about women in science, ones I still fall back on to this day.

Meris is going to be one hell of a handful, in the best way possible

 

[helmuth_hubener]

If a family member is involved, then a 529 fund is probably what we want.

Yes, I agree. It would be fairly easy. I could help if it is wanted.

 

[Uriel999]

If a chip-in happens let me know! I am in!

 

[JK/SEA]

 

[Rothbardian Girl]

 

[messana]

Man.

 

[P3ter_Griffin]

So sad to hear this. Thoughts and prayers.

<3

 

[presence]

Was she really a chemist by profession? I recall she was. Only chemist I've ever known.

"process-scientist" was the title on the resume I read

 

[tangent4ronpaul]

On the 529 thing, just talked to my financial adviser. That's through the gvmt and makes things a pain as well as driving up costs via waste. He suggested a UGMA (Universal Gift to Minors Act) which is a lot more flexible as to how it can be used and is NOT through the gvmt. More cost effective.

Thoughts?

-t

 

[pcosmar]

Right now, taking care of the living (Meris) needs to be the priority. The one she most cared about.
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Contacted the Brother..She was safe with Family (an Aunt I think) and was being cared for.. Meris is with Amy's family,, and they are getting a lawyer.

That is all I know at this moment,,

 

[tod evans]

Contacted the Brother..She was safe with Family (a Aunt I think) and was being cared for.. Meris is with Amy's family,, and they are getting a lawyer.

That is all I know at this moment,,

Thank you for the update Pete!

 

[tangent4ronpaul]

Contacted the Brother..She was safe with Family (an Aunt I think) and was being cared for.. Meris is with Amy's family,, and they are getting a lawyer.

That is all I know at this moment,,

Does he know about this thread? He should read it.

-t

 

[Brian4Liberty]

Does he know about this thread? He should read it.

-t

I have been in contact with him, and he will be reading this memorial thread.

He will get back to me about any donation plans after he discusses with family. Probably best to let the family mourn right now.

 

[pcosmar]

I have been in contact with him, and he will be reading this memorial thread.

He will get back to me about any donation plans after he discusses with family. Probably best to let the family mourn right now.

He has. I have given my info to him and the Aunt that is caring for Meris. They have things in motion.

 

[acptulsa]

I didn't get the impression that Amy and her brother were very close, but she seemed to trust him. He should be a fine choice to do this through.

 

[erowe1]

ps: as to a 529 fund, I have a financial adviser and a lawyer, but you guys seem more versed in this. Anyone wanna volunteer to set one up? Curious about what it is all about.

I'm definitely not more versed than a financial adviser. The rules for 529's differ from state to state. If a particular relative like a brother sets it up (is that who you are?), it may depend what state he lives in. Some states allow out-of-staters to set up 529's in them. Others don't. Some are also better than others. He may want to set it up in his own state, he may find that another option out there is better.

Ultimately, that's his decision, and I would rather not see him base his financial decisions on advice gotten from this forum.

For our sakes, when it comes to having something to donate to, I know I personally would feel most comfortable with something official that is actually in the daughter's name and that would be hard for her or anyone else to spend before she becomes an adult.

A lawyer or financial adviser will probably know the best way to set something up to allow donations from us that will go to the right place. Once that fund, whatever form it takes, exists, then maybe gofundme.com would be the right online vehicle to allow us to donate to it.

 

[erowe1]

On the 529 thing, just talked to my financial adviser. That's through the gvmt and makes things a pain as well as driving up costs via waste. He suggested a UGMA (Universal Gift to Minors Act) which is a lot more flexible as to how it can be used and is NOT through the gvmt. More cost effective.

Thoughts?

-t

He might be right. He's the expert.

I don't think it's correct to say that it's "through the government." It's like a 401k. It's heavily regulated by the government. But those regulations vary by state. And you're not necessarily limited to just the state you're in (and maybe it is the case that in some states it actually is state-run). Also, as with 401k, there are definite tax benefits.

The UGMA is also regulated with varying regulations state-to-state, and it also has tax benefits.

One big difference is that the 529 has to be for education, or else there are penalties for withdrawing the money for any other purpose. This doesn't necessarily have to be college. But again, the types of things that qualify as "education" also depend on the rules of the state the fund is in.

Honestly, it's probably not something to stress too much about on top of so many other things. With either one, you probably can't go too far wrong. And with everything on a family's plate when someone dies unexpectedly, going with the simplest option has a lot to say for it.

 

[pcosmar]

I didn't get the impression that Amy and her brother were very close, but she seemed to trust him. He should be a fine choice to do this through.

I got that too.. and he is learning that his sister had many friends.
But he is in Penn,,
Amy's Aunt, (and others) in Ohio are handling things. They might be the better choice.