Would you live in this house?

[JudgeNapFan]

I'd keep the house. Easy decision.

And don't paint the bricks. That always looks like crap. YOUR house looks really nice. Keep it.

 

[bolil]

Im 23 and cannot, in my dreams, imagine living in digs that nice... ever. Here's to roommates and ramen noodles! Ive worked as a contractor and you did a fantastic job with the remodel, best of luck man!

 

[dannno]

And don't paint the bricks. That always looks like crap.

Personally I'd do something like this:

 

[JudgeNapFan]

Personally I'd do something like this:

Reminds me of a street I drove down years ago. One house was painted a hideous lime green. How did I know his neighbors didn't like it? One painted his own another hideous color. Another painted his an awful purple. He even painted the windows. There was a sign that read "There! Are you happy now?" BTW, it was up for sale too. I'll never forget that. LOL!

 

[angelatc]

No, she's just 21, and really has no clue about finances.

I hope it works out, I honestly do, but I can't make somebody love me. Like Perry said earlier. "I don't think you're going to find the answers you're looking for about your wife with questions about your house."

I was really just seeing if I was living in bizzaro world, or if the house really is awful.

Heh. I wish I could show her the dump I lived in when I was in my early 20's. Seriously, there's something wrong with her - not the house.

(I hate painted brick, and vinyl siding too. But that's just me.)

 

[dannno]

Reminds me of a street I drove down years ago. One house was painted a hideous lime green. How did I know his neighbors didn't like it? One painted his own another hideous color. Another painted his an awful purple. He even painted the windows. There was a sign that read "There! Are you happy now?" BTW, it was up for sale too. I'll never forget that. LOL!

I would also have a massive speaker system setup and play dubstep 24/7 with light shows at night that shine into my neighbor's windows.

 

[ryanmkeisling]

No, she's just 21, and really has no clue about finances.

I hope it works out, I honestly do, but I can't make somebody love me. Like Perry said earlier. "I don't think you're going to find the answers you're looking for about your wife with questions about your house."

I was really just seeing if I was living in bizzaro world, or if the house really is awful.

No dude that house is fine and if she is 21 and that disconnected from reality than you are probably better off without her. Is she going to learn about the world in the next 10 years? I know you love her but even love comes and goes, there are lots of nice women out there. You are not living in a bizzaro world.

 

[mosquitobite]

I've been remodeling this house since before I met my wife (you should see the before pictures). We've been married for two years, and the house has been for sale for a year. She's leaving me, and blaming it on the house, saying she just can't take it anymore, and won't come back.......I don't get it. I mean, I know remodels are tough, and the city isn't that great, but damn...I had it up for sale.

btw, the house has been in my family since 1943. I bought it from my granddad. My grandparents, my dad, my aunt, my great uncle have all lived in the house at some point.

She's doing you a favor then. You owned the house when she married you. It's not like she didn't know going in. She's the problem, not you. *hugs* take that house off the market and fix it up and find a woman that will love you and your family's history in it!

 

[dannno]

.......isn't SHE going to own the house soon?

 

[Gary4Liberty]

keep the house, dump the ingrat and find a woman who will appreciate your talent and generous provision for her. Thats a very nice house and you should be proud of it. She doesnt love you if she leaves because she doesnt like the house. Let her go discover america on her own. You dodged a bullet be happy. oh you ar married to her?? hmmm. I wish you Godspeed my brother. you may have to narfel the gothok

 

[Mckarnin]

From the pictures the house looks completely acceptable as is if it's understood that we'll try for something better soon or get the kitchen finished. Now I can't smell the house, feel how hot or cold it is, hear if the floors creak or see if there are mice in the basement.
I also know nothing about the neighborhood or the feel of the place. Perhaps she feels trapped in a crappy location and you seem distracted by the remodeling and stressed about the debt and the money you need to get out of the house to in some part reduce that debt. In that case I can totally see her leaving you "because of the house" when really it is all the stress and the feeling of being trapped that revolve around the house and not the actual aesthetics.


Any chance you've been spending almost every free moment working on the house or on the computer looking into RP and a lot of your money buying more materials to fix the house? I've known a few couples with that kind of home improvement situation and it was VERY hard on their marriage.

I'm a vote for not giving up. 21 is still a pretty idealistic age and I bet you and your wife have a bit of growing up to do. When you're young it's hard to feel like you already have big stuff hanging over your head (like the house/debt) and sometimes the perspective and maturity to take it in stride are lacking. Also, not that you have to post more personal details on RPF but if your parents signed on the mortage with you it sounds like perhaps your family is close and you get along well. Does she get along well with your family? Is her family as big a part of your lives as your family is? All of these kind of things can play contributing roles to making the house situation feel unbearable or even, in her more angry moments, like you love and care about your family more than her.

 

[brushfire]

If she's leaving you because of the house, she'll find some other reason to leave you after you've left the house.

Let her go, listen to and learn this tune, and someone fine will come along and make you forget about the ex... plus you'll still have that fine house

 

[donnay]

I've been remodeling this house since before I met my wife (you should see the before pictures). We've been married for two years, and the house has been for sale for a year. She's leaving me, and blaming it on the house, saying she just can't take it anymore, and won't come back.......I don't get it. I mean, I know remodels are tough, and the city isn't that great, but damn...I had it up for sale.


btw, the house has been in my family since 1943. I bought it from my granddad. My grandparents, my dad, my aunt, my great uncle have all lived in the house at some point.

It's very quaint and homey. That is definitely a steal for the price you are asking for, just so happens it a bad time for home sales.

It is very admirable that you did not foreclose on it and leave your folks hanging with the debt. It's a shame your wife doesn't understand that. Unfortunately she doesn't realize what a good person you are by being responsible for your debt. Not only that, but how talented you are to do such a beautiful job in restoring that place!

 

[Keith and stuff]

If you decide to keep the house for some reason, perhaps you can take on a tenant and use their rent to help pay down your debt.

 

[oyarde]

VVV

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No, she's just 21, and really has no clue about finances.

I hope it works out, I honestly do, but I can't make somebody love me. Like Perry said earlier. "I don't think you're going to find the answers you're looking for about your wife with questions about your house."

I was really just seeing if I was living in bizzaro world, or if the house really is awful.

Actually , the place is great , very nice . I should feel bad , ( probably , that I have not been so diligent about those types of things , but , it will be spring soon , after I get the garden out , I am thinking more along the lines of a bit of fishing .

 

[oyarde]

I'd keep the house. Easy decision.

And don't paint the bricks. That always looks like crap. YOUR house looks really nice. Keep it.

My thoughts exactly.

 

[oyarde]

btw, the house has been in my family since 1943. I bought it from my granddad. My grandparents, my dad, my aunt, my great uncle have all lived in the house at some point.

I would take it off the market .

 

[Johnny Appleseed]

If I were a chick

You are in violation of penile man code #456 section A which states that in no time will I ever associate myself as being likened to the female persuasion.

Pentence is 50 primal grunts and you must mark your proximities with urine.

 

[oyarde]

Well, it's about $130k less than my current mortgage, I could buy it outright, it's nicer than my current house, 600 sqft bigger, has double the number of bathrooms, fewer rooms needing work, and probably much more energy efficient.
However, it's in Texas. And if I owned Hell and Texas, I'd rent Texas and live in Hell.

Sorry , I gotta say I would take Texas over hell , North Korea, Saudi Arabia , China , Iran , Egypt , Syria , Libya , D.C. ,Hawaii, Alaska , some parts of New Jersey , Pennsylvania , Ohio , Illinois , California , Washington , Oregon , New York , Phillipines , Arizona , Northern Mexico and the list goes on . Oklahoma , where they reap a grocers tax , that is a different story .....

 

[Anti Federalist]

However, it's in Texas. And if I owned Hell and Texas, I'd rent Texas and live in Hell.

How did I miss this?

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