Would you live in this house?

[Ronulus]

You could always sell it on ebay or something and say that anything that exceeds the debt on the house goes to the Ron Paul campaign or PAC. Could do a chip in or something also.

 

[tfurrh]

Is she kinda a dim bulb or what?

No, she's just 21, and really has no clue about finances.

I hope it works out, I honestly do, but I can't make somebody love me. Like Perry said earlier. "I don't think you're going to find the answers you're looking for about your wife with questions about your house."

I was really just seeing if I was living in bizzaro world, or if the house really is awful.

 

[PursuePeace]

It's lovely!

 

[dannno]

No, she's just 21, and really has no clue about finances.

I hope it works out, I honestly do, but I can't make somebody love me.

Hmm ya most girls that age have no idea what they want. How old are you? I'm living with my 21 yr old gf at the moment, but I think she has some good promise. No way we are going to get married any time soon, though.

 

[Miss Annie]

Have you tried counseling? It's probably not ALL the house. I can relate because I have a yukky marriage. The design of my house does not help, but it's not ALL the house.
Was laying in bed with my husband the other night, and my daughter's room is DIRECTLY above ours. If she rolls over we can hear it. However, that really sucks because the kid can't even get up to go pee in the middle of the night without being told she "needs to settle down and go to sleep".
The other night she got up to go pee and my husband had a conniption and when he did...... so did I! I just belted out "I hate this f'n house"!
But if you look at the circumstances,...... it's not ALL the houses fault. What I was really saying is that I hate living in the house with someone who bitches about every little thing!!
So,.... I can understand the challenges of a "problem house",...... but it can also be challenging attitudes too.

 

[Keith and stuff]

It seems like a nice enough house. It has more than 1 bedroom so you could start a family there.

 

[tfurrh]

It seems like a nice enough house. It has more than 1 bedroom so you could start a family there.

3 bedrooms actually, and at one time, I had talked about building more rooms in the attic. Its a huge attic.

 

[fisharmor]

Well, it's about $130k less than my current mortgage, I could buy it outright, it's nicer than my current house, 600 sqft bigger, has double the number of bathrooms, fewer rooms needing work, and probably much more energy efficient.
However, it's in Texas. And if I owned Hell and Texas, I'd rent Texas and live in Hell.

 

[dannno]

The other night she got up to go pee and my husband had a conniption and when he did...... so did I! I just belted out "I hate this f'n house"!
But if you look at the circumstances,...... it's not ALL the houses fault. What I was really saying is that I hate living in the house with someone who bitches about every little thing!!

Question.

As a female, what is it do you think that causes you to mis-communicate in such a way? Why didn't you tell him it isn't your daughter's fault she has to get up at night?

If it were me, I'd be like, dude, calm the fuck down, smoke a bowl and go back to sleep.

 

[tfurrh]

How old are you?

24

 

[RiseAgainst]

I think it's beautiful!

If she's going to leave you over a house, especially as nice as it is, then you are FAR better off. I know it can be hard to see the forest for the trees, but from a guy who spent 15 years in a crappy relationship it can be SOOOOO much better!

I wish you luck, you should be proud of that home!

 

[Miss Annie]

Question.

As a female, what is it do you think that causes you to mis-communicate in such a way? Why didn't you tell him it isn't your daughter's fault she has to get up at night?

If it were me, I'd be like, dude, calm the fuck down, smoke a bowl and go back to sleep.

The miscommunication was caused from going from 0 - 120 on the pissed of scale in 30 seconds. Danno he will do that even when he is not trying to sleep. Even if he is watching tv or something, he will be all up her ass about walking across the floor at night. It's not about noise. It's about control and someone who has no patience and tolerance for others humanity. Complete narcissist.

 

[brandon]

Holy shit man...I'd kill for a house like that at that price. I'm preparing to buy a home and i've been looking at very similar size and quality houses, except they cost about $240,000 where I live!

 

[green73]

Her loss.

 

[driller80545]

None of my business, but I would suggest keeping the house and dumping the wife. Houses do get better with time.
P.S. It looks good to me. My wife and I have lived in much, much worse. Didn't divorce.

 

[lib3rtarian]

For the price, it's a great house. You have done a great job with the remodelling. If your wife wants to leave you over this, tell her to FO. The biatch doesn't deserve you. You are only 24. You can find someone else more sensible.

 

[Anti Federalist]

Better off without her.

I've been remodeling this house since before I met my wife (you should see the before pictures). We've been married for two years, and the house has been for sale for a year. She's leaving me, and blaming it on the house, saying she just can't take it anymore, and won't come back.......I don't get it. I mean, I know remodels are tough, and the city isn't that great, but damn...I had it up for sale.

 

[tfurrh]

btw, the house has been in my family since 1943. I bought it from my granddad. My grandparents, my dad, my aunt, my great uncle have all lived in the house at some point.

 

[Tina]

Your wife has no clue what most 21 year olds live in. The house looks very nice to me. I could make it work, not to be negative, but I'd lose the red door

 

[Nirvikalpa]

I'm very sorry all of this is occurring in your life. I think the house looks great, and think you did quite an amazing job restoring it and fixing it up. As for your wife... I would gently remind her that the vow does go "for better or for worse," and although she may see this time as a 'worst,' that doesn't mean things will stay that way forever. This house (I am assuming) means a lot to you as it has been in your family since the 40's - if she can not accept that or work with you to turn this situation positive, then you are better off without her.

Best of luck, with both situations. Try to remain positive.