No individual should recognize a marriage ,under the constitutional republic we live in, but that's not reality when marriage does get special privileges for heterosexual marriages and not homosexual ones. Justice delayed is justice denied, and waiting for the states to agree with marriage equality isn't as effective if it's taking decades for such uncivil laws to be overturned.
Also, that's an extreme hyperbole to say that the federal government "pointing a gun to our heads" to accept gay marriage when it's not even such an extreme idea to suggest in our society. If that was the case, couldn't I say that the federal government was "pointing a gun to our heads" by forcing the states to end slavery, end racial discrimination and to pay income tax?
It's just common sense.
The federal govt is indeed holding a gun to all of our heads on all of those issues. It's not hyperbole, it's fact that's attenuated through mass obedience.
To counter your "justice delayed is justice denied" quote, how about "justice rectified through unjust means is just redistributing injustice?"
Look at countries that didn't force the end of slavery: slavery ended through private, peaceful means and there wasn't a 100 year morass of racial injustice as there was here where slavery was ended by the point of a gun. Imagine the continued hatred and resentment of LGBTs if the federal govt comes in from on high and tells people who (irrationally and as bigots) don't want to go along with such a thing. They'll foment hatred against "the gay agenda" and clandestinely organize to dig in their heels against change, keeping their discriminatory beliefs just below the surface while outwardly being patronized by the very people they seek to marginalize.
Imagine instead if we just go about our business, promote gay marriage as something we support as individuals, and bigotry something we won't tolerate among our cohorts. The old bigots will either peacefully and cordially change their minds after being convinced that it's not so bad, or they'll go to their graves quietly holding onto their biases. They won't be out conspiring against gays and the govt that forced them to "accept" them, they'll instead be dusty remnants to times long past who were too stupid to tolerate and adapt to the evolution going on around them. They would be "out" as bigots, and we would be free to ignore them in the marketplace, in our social circles, and in our daily lives.
And are you denying that if you said "I'm not paying taxes" there wouldn't be letters threatening you, turning into cages to hold you, turning into raids to capture you, turning into deadly force to subdue you if your remained vigilant that you did non need to obey any of the chain of orders?
As I said in the other thread, "common sense" is just shorthand for admitting that you haven't analyzed the conclusions you've stated. "common sense" could have been used to say "slavery can't be ended; who'll pick the cotton?" It's a deep line of reasoning that concludes "people should not be owned, if people need cotton picked, it will be done peacefully."
