It really is this simple. Answer one question for me. Do you support violence and coercion?
That’s like asking me if I support scarcity and corruption. Those things exist in society because they are a part of our nature; in the same way you can get rid of scarcity by passing a law, you can’t get rid of violence and coercion by getting rid of government. In fact, I’d wager you’d have a lot more of it without a state.
I find that anarchist and communists share the same flaw in that they both have things backwards. Scarcity and corruption don't exist because of capitalism; capitalism exists there is scarcity and corruption; in the same way, violence and coercion don't exist because of a state; the state exists because there is violence and coercion.
If you can understand why abolishing capitalism won't destroy scarcity, you should be able to see why abolishing the state won't end coercion.
Once you understand the ideas of the non-aggression principle and self ownership then you will realize that what voluntaryists advocate is their morality. So people who believe these concepts believe it to be the truth. It is not arrogance to state the fact that I own myself and no one has a higher claim to my life. It is not arrogance to state the fact that forcing another to do their will is morally wrong. It is not arrogance to state that taxation is theft and is just as immoral when a group of people commit the crime as one person. Taxation is not made moral by writing it down on paper and calling it a law or an amendment. Once you understand these concepts this is what the liberty movement calls "waking up" . But it is difficult to break those 12 years of indoctrination camp the children of this country have to endure.
If I understand your point correctly, you’re basically saying that one person robbing you under the threat of violence is no different than a group of individuals getting together and deciding, through a democratic process to set up a system of collective defense of property rights through the collection of limited taxation ?
The reason why you can’t opt out of taxation without living in the wilderness is because you perpetually consume government services when in you're in a civilized area. If you use roads, electricity, water, have a bank account, have contracts, or even eat food you don’t grow yourself without paying taxes, then you’re making someone else pay for your expenses, and that's without bringing the police and military protection in the picture.
If you want to bring about anarchism, you have to convince enough people that they don’t need government in the areas of building infrastructure, subsidizing food, providing security, providing dispute resolution, etc.etc. And then have them support a candidate who wants to legalize all those areas to competition.
It's a slow process, but it's the only way to reduce the power of the state in the long run; if you want to get rid of the state, you have to get rid of the idea that people need it first.
(It also might be helpful to be a little less smug, using terms like "12 years of indoctrination camp" doesn't do anything besides antagonize people don't already who share your narrow viewpoint of education.)