I NEVER go to that shit...I don't have anything in my home from my time in my service. No uniforms, no awards, nothing. Not even my ID.
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The Divorce papers are Filed...Why Do People Get Married?
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I NEVER go to that shit...I don't have anything in my home from my time in my service. No uniforms, no awards, nothing. Not even my ID.
phill4paul
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DD214 or a VA card will do. Some places on that site don't even require i.d. I don't turn down free meals.
DD214 or a VA card will do. Some places on that site don't even require i.d. I don't turn down free meals.
Well I do, it's celebrating everything I'm against.
I have NO appetite now, haven't eaten in 3 days - and I actually feel great. Lost 20lbs last 2 months, 10lbs above the weight I came out of boot camp.
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Have you applied for service sector jobs like gas stations, restaurants, and retail stores?
No, it never occurred to me to get a job. Really? Did you even read my OP?
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I specifically asked about those types of jobs because you hadn't mentioned it in any of your posts. They usually have high turn-over rates which means jobs are usually available, but you must live in a relatively small town if none of them are hiring. I know that can be a problem in my city, that when people get a job they tend to stick with it even if it doesn't have much room for advancement, which means there are less jobs available.
Right, you just have to find the right person. I haven't yet but know it is possible, so I haven't given up hope.
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my ex whore wife fucked me over to or she thought. the kids decided to live with me full time and so it was. she treated them like shit. even took me to court 2 yrs latersaying i manipulated them against her. judge eventually threw the case out stating "there is overwhelming evidence that she is lying". it took a while but it worked out
advice for YOU!!
1 document everything no matter how small. this will be your only hope.
2 record or text convos in case she goes off on you. this will prove her inability to be stable for the kids.
3 keep talk ONLY about the kids and kid visits/exchanges. DO NOT ENGAGE IN HER ARGUMENTS!! it will only make you look foolish to the court.
4 do not be around her without a witness!!! she will lie about you to get you into trouble.
for everyone else...dont get married!! its basically you trusting that someone else will stay sane and not screw you over.
advice for YOU!!
1 document everything no matter how small. this will be your only hope.
2 record or text convos in case she goes off on you. this will prove her inability to be stable for the kids.
3 keep talk ONLY about the kids and kid visits/exchanges. DO NOT ENGAGE IN HER ARGUMENTS!! it will only make you look foolish to the court.
4 do not be around her without a witness!!! she will lie about you to get you into trouble.
for everyone else...dont get married!! its basically you trusting that someone else will stay sane and not screw you over.
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I am really sorry to hear what you are going through. I have been through some of this myself and please no that posting what I am about to post is not meant to be insulting or insensitive at all but during some hard times it was one of the few things that could make me laugh and I hope it does the same for you.
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Not sure if you're willing to move way out, but I'll throw this out there. These are a variety of caretaker type jobs. They range from almost traditional jobs to house sitting with light work. I am checking this site for a friend right now.
http://www.caretakerjobs.com/search_result.cfm
http://www.caretakerjobs.com/search_result.cfm
Thx, I'll look into it. Thx everybody as well for the words/advice.
Well my friend, hopefully it makes you feel better that your stories have hardened my resolve to never marry anyone and have children with them unless I live harmoniously with them for several years. I'll be in my thirties by that time so hopefully any latent psychological issues will have arisen before that point in my spouse (or myself for that matter).
My best wishes go out to you. I still remember your post months ago or last year about the same issue. I'm glad things are getting closer to their logical conclusion so you can move on faster.
My best wishes go out to you. I still remember your post months ago or last year about the same issue. I'm glad things are getting closer to their logical conclusion so you can move on faster.
Yeah, this has been an ongoing thing, for sure. It unfortunately has to drag out some more.
I lived with her for several years before being married, and everything was great. Up until the point her parents convinced her she needed to build a house 3 miles from them in Florida, while her husband was stationed in Maine.
I lit the wedding album up in the fire pit last night, it's mere presence sickened my stomach.
Fuck it, this bitch threw away all of our wedding photos years ago(to make her affair a little easier on her mind, cunt). The photos I got back were from my sister, who took professional ones for us months after we married. All the ones of the actual marriage are now a pile of ashes,and good fucking riddance.
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I feel for you Coastie. What you're describing sounds awful.
But with all the anti-marriage talk in the thread, I feel like I need to chime in and put in a good word for it. My wife and I have problems, not the same as the OP, but sometimes serious ones, and they can be stressful. Life isn't perfect. Neither of us is always happy. But when I was single, life wasn't perfect then either, and I wasn't always happy then either. All-in-all I'm glad I'm married, and if divorce ever became a possibility, I'd do anything I possibly could to rescue our marriage.
But with all the anti-marriage talk in the thread, I feel like I need to chime in and put in a good word for it. My wife and I have problems, not the same as the OP, but sometimes serious ones, and they can be stressful. Life isn't perfect. Neither of us is always happy. But when I was single, life wasn't perfect then either, and I wasn't always happy then either. All-in-all I'm glad I'm married, and if divorce ever became a possibility, I'd do anything I possibly could to rescue our marriage.
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This is excellent advice!! I am sorry you are going through this and can sympathize..... I think I must be the poster child for bad relationships. Have been married, divorced, and remarried. No luck. I think my picker is broke... LOL.
The one I am married to now is narcissistic, so I can commiserate with the mental issues. It is exhausting!! But I will say this about your wife's family.... what I have learned is that the nut doesn't fall far from the tree! I can look and see how a long line of narcissists in my spouse's family, branching out in all directions. The above advice that I quoted is excellent..... DO NOT ENGAGE! There is rarely anything productive that comes from it, it is usually bait, and will more than likely be used against you. Keep all interactions civil and yet as impersonal as possible.
I am so sorry you are going through this. I will pray for you and your kids and pray that God will intervene and provide means for you to get custody.
Hang in there!
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I have my DD214,, my dog tags,, and a pair of camies some marine left in a thrift store.. (in case I ever need a pair)
Oh,, and the Knowledge I gained,,
I take no pride in it,, but will use it when needed.
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