Spanking

[brandon]

This thread is about the use of spanking as discipline. For spanking as erotic activity, see erotic spanking. For punishment as an erotic activity, see BDSM.

Should it be legal to spank your child? When does it cross the line into abuse? Regardless of your opinion on the legal status of spanking, do you think spanking is a healthy practice? Were you spanked as a child?


Did you know that the US has close to the most lenient spanking laws in the world? Did you know that 24 countries outlaw spanking?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spanking#Legal_status

 

[Dr.3D]

Illegal or legal, I would spank a child when and if it needed it.
"Spare the rod and spoil the child."

 

[acptulsa]

Spanking is something used by those who cannot reason with a child or who think a child isn't human enough to be reasoned with. Once the kid learns to talk, a swat should only be necessary if the child has a natural prediliction toward being a psycho.

Of course, some children do have that trait, and their parents shouldn't have their hands tied because other parents are incompetent.

 

[newyearsrevolution08]

I was spanked as a child, I even spank my son from time to time. I used to do it more than I do now since he is getting older and can actually LISTEN to me and be able to communicate verbally. When he was younger, he was spanked when he did wrong BUT did it really help? I don't think so.

I think parents spank out of desperation, anger, irritated or just to STOP whatever is going on. I don't see it as a way to build up a kid to NOT do whatever he or she did to get spanked in the first place though.

It puts a fear in a kid about their parent.

"wait til dad gets home and you are gunna get it!"

puts a different message in a kids head then.

"wait til dad gets home so he can talk to you about what you did wrong and how we can help you fix that problem"

the second one seems to work better for me now, new parent, thought I had to be a hard ass to raise a son... who knows BUT what does work is talking with your kids versus spanking the bad out of em lol.

 

[phill4paul]

Spanking should only be allowed if you have had a terrible day at work, your wife is making the sign of the eight footed two horned armadillo with the immigrant yard worker and someone ate the last of the cheesy poofs.

Other than that it is abuse.

 

[Uriel999]

I was spanked as a kid and turned out okay.

 

[Matt Collins]

Depends on if your girl likes it or not I guess

 

[brandon]

Depends on if your girl likes it or not I guess

I edited the OP just for you.

 

[newyearsrevolution08]

I was spanked as a kid and turned out okay.

says the guy who is in love with bunchies.......

 

[dannno]

Is it ok to spank bunchies?

 

[Dr.3D]

Spanking is something used by those who cannot reason with a child or who think a child isn't human enough to be reasoned with. Once the kid learns to talk, a swat should only be necessary if the child has a natural prediliction toward being a psycho.

Of course, some children do have that trait, and their parents shouldn't have their hands tied because other parents are incompetent.

Trying to reason with some little kids is like trying to teach a monkey to use a typewriter. When you tell a child not to do something, and they they continue to do it anyway, it is time to let them have a good firm pat on the butt.

If a policeman could only stand on the corner and yell at people who were running red lights, would the people pay any attention to him? Come on, reason only works if the person has a reason to listen.

 

[angelatc]

We spanked our kids. As far as I am concerned it works wonders. When they got older, simply telling them that a spanking was next worked fine. Especially if I was able to remind them that it would be really embarrassing if it had to happen right there in front of their friends.

I had little interest in explaining to my kids why I expected them to behave a certain way, especially when they were 5 and under. "Because I said so," was really all their teeny minds really needed to be concerned about. Because the threat was always implied, I didn't have to spank them very much, by my standards at least.

My younger son was probably about 4 when he decided to hit me because he didn't get his way about something. I was so angry that I just put him in his car seat and took his little butt home. I stuck him in his room, and fed him dinner there. He fell asleep, and when my husband got home (about 10:00 that night IIRC) and heard the story, he went marching right up the stairs, grabbed him, stood him up and spanked him a couple of swats.

He looked at him and said, "If you ever, ever hit your mother again you don't want to know what happens next. Do you understand that?" My little one was crying, but he nodded yes and we put him back in bed.

Never had another incident, but 6 years later his older brother still talks about how freaked out they both were that night. I can't imagine that sitting down and talking to him would have had the same effect.

I have been in playgroups and sports and scouts and schools with a myriad of kids from a multitude of backgrounds, and my firm opinion is that children who aren't spanked are always insufferable brats with parents who don't discipline enough. We spanked, and rarely needed to use "time outs" because a look from me was usually enough.

 

[heavenlyboy34]

Is it ok to spank bunchies?

Only if he lets you. Spanking never worked on me, so I'm surprised it worked for so many on this thread. :O

 

[angelatc]

Spanking is something used by those who cannot reason with a child or who think a child isn't human enough to be reasoned with. .

Snicker - just curious....do you have kids? Because I can absolutely assure you that the abilities to listen and talk have very little to do with the ability to reason.

 

[M House]

I always thought spanking was near pointless. Whoopee-do your child fears your hand on it's butt. I was a spanked a few times as a child and I'm not even sure what the issues were, lame. Should the government dictate what methods you should use, nope. Though using fear and aggression has got to be the most inefficient method to train just about anything. Going to a dog trainer they don't start spanking your pooch, but they do sometimes use those choke collars so whatever.

 

[heavenlyboy34]

I always thought spanking was near pointless. Whoopee-do your child fears your hand on it's butt. I was a spanked a few times as a child and I'm not even sure what the issues were, lame. Should the government dictate what methods you should use, nope. Though using fear and aggression has got to be the most inefficient method to train just about anything. Going to a dog trainer they don't start spanking your pooch, but they do sometimes use those choke collars so whatever.

Tell that to the Pavlovians.

 

[raystone]

I was spanking my 4 year old son a few years while telling him it was wrong to hit his little sister. As you may guess, I had an epiphany and haven't hit my kids since, just spend more time teaching consequences for their behavior and trying to model the best behavior possible.

 

[phill4paul]

Snicker - just curious....do you have kids? Because I can absolutely assure you that the abilities to listen and talk have very little to do with the ability to reason.

Which is why my parents chose to brand me with a hot iron as a child. Irt only took eight "bad boy" brands for me to wise up.

Hey spanking...branding... it's only a matter of degrees.

 

[Deborah K]

I used to tell my kids: "Either listen with your ears or listen with your behind." They usually chose their ears.

 

[Grimnir Wotansvolk]

Do I think spanking is an ideal form of discipline? Not really. In most cases it's definitely not going to hurt, though, not nearly as much as giving the state more leverage in a parent's life and opening a door for fraudulent claims of child abuse.