(PG- 13) Steubenville, Round IV: NAP vs Personal Repsonsibility

presence wants it to be not-exactly-okay but less-bad to TAKE ADVANTAGE of people who are blotto. It's not.

Or should stealing from people who are blotto also warrant lesser penalty than stealing from "responsible" people?


I'd suspect there are AT LEAST a hundred thousand people who have sex with a BAC over .15 every single night in this country. All... blotto. Can they all wake up in the morning and claim they were to drunk to consent?


Is that what freedom is all about?
 
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I'd suspect there are AT LEAST a hundred thousand people who have sex with a BAC over .15 every single night in this country. All... blotto. Can they all wake up in the morning and claim they were to drunk to consent?


Is that what freedom is all about?

Can you sign a contract while dunk? If not then their can be no consent while drunk. Now if someone has sex while drunk then wakes up the next morning and fully realizes what happened and then decided not to press charges then that is on the individual. Just like it is illegal for someone to hit me (assault) but may not lead to legal charges if I decide to not charge them or file a report.


That is why if ANY girl is tipsie you DO NOT have sex with them. You cover your ass and make sure you do not violate their rights.
 
Presence, please read this post:
Ok, here's one last try at this to make you guys see why this was wrong... And I apologize upfront when this violates the PG13 premise.

Let's say a girl plans on consenting to intercourse. Does that means she also consents to fellatio and anal sex as well? What if a guy tries that and she does not consent? If she does not consent and he does it anyway, has he committed an aggression?

Now, what if she has lost her ability to deny her consent? Does this mean the guy can do whatever he wants? Pretty absurd, right? If you do not have the ability to remove your consent, you are not operating under your own free will. And while she is responsible for placing herself in this condition, they are responsible for their aggression on a girl that did not have the capacity to say "no".

I keep hearing people say things like this girl was asking for it. Well, what was she asking for? Did she consent to having naked pictures taken while being molested in front of an audience? I don't think any of you would say she was consenting to that. So even if she may have been considering consenting to having sex that night, it should be obvious that she no longer possessed the ability to consent of her own free will. And since these creeps didn't care about that and aggressed on her anyway, they violated the NAP.
This should really demonstrate to you where your argument falls apart. I hope it also makes you stop and think a little about what you're trying to defend.
 
presence wants it to be not-exactly-okay but less-bad to VIOLATE females who are irresponsible enough to get blotto. It's not.

Should stealing from men who are blotto also warrant lesser penalty than stealing from "responsible" men?

Why do you want a double standard? If the man is "blotto" as well then shouldn't he be able to cry rape? Why is it only a "violation" for the drunk woman to have sex? The more I think about it, the more this reveals a puritanical patriarchal attitude in this society with a thin veneer of feminism spread on top. (No pun intended.) Some people are acting like waking up the next morning and finding out you had sex with someone you normally wouldn't have is the worst thing to happen to you but only if you are a woman. "Oh the poor drunk girl was deflowered by the drunk guy who also didn't know what he was doing." For all you know she really wanted him, he thought she was freaking ugly and would never be caught dead with her under normal circumstances. It would be one thing if a man knowingly got some woman drunk by mixing her drinks that she didn't realize were alcoholic so he could take advantage of her. But the scenario being described, to my understanding, is one where both the man and the woman knowingly and purposefully got sloshed.

That said, this does not apply to this case because (from what I gather) the girl was actually passed out at some point. It's never okay to assume consent for someone who's not conscious unless you have explicit consent beforehand (surgery) or an emergency (emergency surgery). But drunk people consent all of the time. I gave the example earlier of a drunk person hailing a cab. Okay, that could fit the emergency category. How about a drunk person betting his paycheck at Vegas? You know casinos give away alcohol for the sole purpose of getting people to consent to letting the casinos take their money? That is, in effect "stealing from men who are blotto." Should there be a penalty for that? I suppose casinos could be barred from serving alcohol. Say if a customer comes into a casino who is obviously drunk. Must the casino turn him away? Or is it safe for the casino to assume that if someone came to Vegas and drank they were knowingly putting themselves at risk to voluntarily gamble? And if someone goes to a singles bar where people are known to get drunk and hook up with someone and go have sex, what are they knowingly putting themselves at risk to voluntarily do?
 
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Presence, please read this post:

This should really demonstrate to you where your argument falls apart. I hope it also makes you stop and think a little about what you're trying to defend.

Reverse your logic. Say if the guy would never consent to have a woman sit on his face, but he does in this case because he was drunk. Has he now been raped? If you have a situation where both sides can equally claim to be the "victim" of the crime based on each side agreeing to the exact same facts, you have a victimless crime. Last time I checked, libertarians were against punishing victimless crimes. But based on your scenario, if you want to be fair to both sexes (big "if"), two sloshed out drunk people who both somehow agree to perform a sex act on the other that they wouldn't do if they were sober can now both claim the other "raped" them.

I hear people saying in this thread "Personal responsibility means not accepting the risk that if you get drunk and have sex with a woman who was also drunk and said she wanted to have sex with you, you need to accept the risk that you might be convicted of rape." Well personal responsibility is also "If you get drunk, you may say you want to have sex with someone that you wouldn't normally agree to have sex with and it won't be considered rape." There is a reason I don't drink or do drugs. I'm not willing to put myself in a position to do something stupid. Also there are worse things in the world than waking up the next day and finding out that after you voluntarily got drunk, you committed some sex act you wouldn't have otherwise done. Drunk people lose their life savings all the time at casinos and nobody says "We should throw the casino owners in prison for robbing a drunk!"
 
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I'd suspect there are AT LEAST a hundred thousand people who have sex with a BAC over .15 every single night in this country. All... blotto. Can they all wake up in the morning and claim they were to drunk to consent?


Is that what freedom is all about?

I guess the prohibitionists were right. Ban alcohol.
 

NON AGRESSION PRINCIPLE (NAP) VS PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY



For better or worse, after considerable research into the facts of the case, after having changed my personal stance on this issue, as devils advocate, or as a lawyer of the defendants (whichever makes you hate me less) I take the stance that personal responsibility is the underlying issue in this case and that NO AGGRESSION OCCURRED; the defendants are INNOCENT of the charges of RAPE. Most of my position hinges on the testimony of the expert witness, a Clinical Psychologist with a speciality in Alcohol Intoxication named Fromme.

"Aggression" is not here appropriate. "Violation" would be far better, or "trespass". The principle of no trespass, alternatively the non-violation principle. I honestly despise this use of "aggression" because it is flatly incorrect. If we are to use the word "aggression" properly, the NAP makes poor sense. Just pointing this out as a matter of language and clear, precise, and complete communication. And yes, it is important even in this discussion.


You are still PERSONALLY RESPONSIBLE when you are inebriated.

Even the doobuses at Alcoholics Anonymous agree that this is the case.

Passing out implies medical unconsciousness. That was not the case in Steubenville.

Was that established at trial or is the question still up for grabs? If the former, then I am not sure why those boys, probably young and promising assholes that they are, were convicted.

again, keyword: fromme steubenville

You can drink what you want.
You can dress as you like.
You can talk to whomever you want.

But in a free society, you always have personal responsibility to protect yourself, no matter how inebriated you are.

That would seem to be the responsibility part. If you assess your "child" (and I question whether a 16-year old person qualifies as a child, save in the legal sense) as incapable of defending themselves against assaults upon their persons, then why as a parent are you letting them out of the house without escort?

So long as you are medically and legally conscious...

IT IS YOUR BODY,

I would hope so. :)

given to you by your creator,
and He (she, it, whatever) expects YOU to care for it; ALWAYS.

Argument FAIL. This detail requires a belief that is wholly irrelevant to the core issues at hand. Best to leave this one out, IMO.

You are given respite for temporary medical unconsciousness, coma, and death.

NOT inebriation.

Not because you're blacking out your memories.
Not because you're too tired right now.
Not because you're too sick.

Not just because its more convenient to lay there
and think about how its too difficult to get up or speak up to defend yourself right now.

Agreeable.

Not because you're too weak.

If you mean this in the literal sense of physicality and even psychology, I would have to disagree. Expecting a paraplegic to get up out of his wheelchair to run away from as assailant can be in no measure regarded as reasonable, for example.

Once again, care with the details of one's sentences.

ALWAYS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY

All else equal, I fully agree.

Its not my fault... I was too drunk to resist when he was sticking his finger in me.

Does not cut it in a free society any moreso than:

Its not my fault... I was too drunk to see those kids on the side of the road I that I just flattened with my Jeep.

In precise detail I cannot agree with this, once again the problem arising out of the specific structure of the statement. It is indeed possible that one becomes too physically disabled to effectively stop such acts once they have chosen and acted such that they become that drunk. The key lies in the choosing to drink that much in the first place such that you become incapable. That responsibility is always yours.

Therefore, claiming you were too drunk to resist becomes a non-defense if you willfully chose to drink so much that you rendered yourself incapable of resisting. In such a case, nobody dosed you unawares and nobody forced the booze down your throat. Rightly or wrongly, you put yourself into the position and as such carry a measure of culpability at least equal to those who acted against what you later claim as having been your wishes.

That, however, may not get one's assailants completely off the hook. It is one's responsibility to do no harm and under more ideal circumstances one should be able to tell whether the commission of an act is right or wrong. Sadly, such conditions are often absent and the various factors relating to such situations, such as the esteem of parents just to name one example, complicate things greatly.

Young girl is hell bent to "do" young boy and makes good on her intent. The parents catch wind of it and girl cries "rape" in order to escape the consequences of her willful choices. Young boy ends up in trouble to his eyelids. Why? Because the male is ALWAYS wrong and always guilty if the girl says he is, barring extraordinary evidence to the contrary, and sometimes in spite of it. This is the built-in assumption under which the culture and its courts operate and it is criminal in itself.
 
There's nothing to debate.

The woman was not capable of giving her informed express consent while intoxicated. By definition, her judgment was impaired. If she had given her consent to sexual activity before getting intoxicated, that would have been different. And even if she had given her consent before getting intoxicated, it would still have been prudent for the men to have some proof of her consent for their own protection.

This is nonsense. Inebriation at almost any level does not impair ones ability to consent to having sex. For example, I have been plenty drunk on more occasions than I care to recall in the days of young adulthood. I had plenty of opportunities to have drunken sex and eagerly consented to most of those. I was, however, always capable of refusing and in fact did so on several occasions for reasons not relevant here. Your assertion is therefore disproven by contradiction.

QED.
 
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If you mean this in the literal sense of physicality and even psychology, I would have to disagree. Expecting a paraplegic to get up out of his wheelchair to run away from as assailant can be in no measure regarded as reasonable, for example.

You'll note I tempered that statement with "get up or speak up". Even a parapalegic can say no, stop, leave me alone. None of which we have evidence she ever did.

Best to leave this one out, IMO.


appeal to my Christian Republican base? ;)


In precise detail I cannot agree with this, once again the problem arising out of the specific structure of the statement. It is indeed possible that one becomes too physically disabled to effectively stop such acts once they have chosen and acted such that they become that drunk. The key lies in the choosing to drink that much in the first place such that you become incapable. That responsibility is always yours.


What I feel makes that example most telling is that if the drunk driver ACTUALLY PASSES OUT; medically unconscious behind the wheel and travels on with cruise control in a straight line path for a half mile before causing injury while flick-of-the-face, snap-some-amonnia-inhalant, pick-up-his-hand-and-let-it-drop, apply-pressure-to-pressure-points-with-no-response, UNCONSCIOUS... the drunk is still responsible for the injuries caused.


For me, it would stand to reason that inserting a finger and placing a penis on her face were two factual ways in which for the for the young boys with no medical training to DISCOVER unconsciousness. At which point they did NOT proceed to rape her. I don't know of any medically appropriate way to discover unconsciousness in fact without manipulating the individual's reflex response. I could see that kid having placed his penis on her face "flick-of-the-face" having his FIRST moment of clarity about the situation.
 
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On the other hand, just "Not saying no" is not the same as "Saying yes."

In some cases I would agree, in others it is clearly the case that they are indeed the same. Then there is a fairly broad area of grey where people communicate in the fuzziest of terms whereby such communications proceed on a basis of personal trust. There have been plenty of times in my life where the absence of "yes" still very much meant "yes". When I was much younger I had a terrible time with this because I am by nature one who likes communication to be explicit and clear. I have literally passed up dozens, perhaps hundreds of opportunities to "get some" when I was younger precisely because of this absence of explicitness. My sense of being a gentleman prevented me from going farther precisely because there was absent a clear and unequivocal "yes" passed to me. At other times, I read the situation differently and proceeded... albeit with some trepidation until a threshold was passed. It was not until a bit later in my experience that I learned how to navigate the grey seas of subtle communication WRT to such personal relations with women.

Therefore, it profits us nothing to paint reality as being so black and white as you are here suggesting. Hell, sometimes even "no" means "yes". It can all be very confusing, but it can also be very exhilarating and exciting. The problem today is that in this post-modern obsession for perfect justice for every movement of a person's eyeballs we have let a monster into our house. That monster is "government" and it has its nose in everyone's business and it dictates in black and white terms that allow nothing for these grey areas and that is an impossibly dangerous devloutionary development. We slay the quality of our own lives because we want no responsibility to navigate the often murky waters of human relations. That is way screwed up.

I'm really not sure of the details of what happened here. I would say that if in any sense, she actually did consent (Again, that she consented while drunk is not relvant to me) than there's no rape, but if she simply "Didn't say no" but never did actually consent, than its still.... something criminal.

Agreed.

Note that I said "Something criminal." I don't know the details here, but I think "Rape" is overused as a term anyway. "Rape" means "By force" period. If it wasn't forced, its not rape.

Methinks you are right on this. As is the case with so many other aspects of daily life, the creep sets in and before you know it a cat becomes a '56 Oldsmobile.

Again, I don't know the details here, but anytime someone says "Statuitory Rape" it kind of annoys me. I understand that, and why, a 13 year old is considered to not be emotionally mature enough to consent, or whatever, but it still isn't RAPE if she consented to it. To me, "Rape" suggests that it would be justifiable to execute the perpetraitor, or otherwise forever ruin their life. Otherwise, a less strong word should be used. In much the same manner, a drunk driver who gets into an accident and kills somebody is guilty of a crime, but not murder, because he didn't deliberately kill. And while punishing the drunk driver in some way is justifiable, it would be less than a murder charge.

Anyways, I don't know. You can probably figure out my position by what I've posted here combined with knowledge of what actually happened, which I don't have.

I think you are on the right track in all of this. I share this position. Our justice system and mindset that underlies it ran of the rails completely decades ago. It is a terrible thing.
 
The fact is, sex is not a casual interaction. It can have life changing implications. Treat it seriously or suffer the consequences

As woefully stupid as your other posts have been up to this point, I actually agree with this bit.

We now return to your regularly scheduled inanity:

So, what you're arguing for is that men should just be able to rape women indiscriminately... See I can play that game too. ;)
 
I do not agree with the underlying notion that a conscious free agent has to give their consent to have sex.

It is my underlying belief that one must ASSERTIVELY DENY another's advances before it could be said that they did not consent.



MY DOG AND THE COUCH

I have an on again off again policy with my dog on the couch. Sometimes she is welcome. Sometimes she is not. It is my couch, my space, and I control when and if. That said, my dog comes up to the couch periodically and places her paw on it.

Sometimes I scratch her ears and she comes up and settles out next to me.

Sometimes half heartedly I say,

"no ma'am", and she puts other paw up...
"knock it off", and the back feet come up.
"you're bothering me, get down", and she cuddles next to me and settles out.

Other times assertively I say,

"NO MA'AM", and her first paw goes back to the floor.

Other times she gets an ear scratch and makes it to two paws up before I bark,

"KNOCK IT OFF", and she returns to the floor;

and yet other times she weasels her way to four paws up on the couch and attempts to settle in but is met with a firm,

"YOU'RE BOTHERING ME, GET DOWN",

at which point she reluctantly returns to her nest on the ground.


similarly... if I put my hand up between my dog and the couch, but my dog noses my hand and my hand, however reluctantly, yields... she proceeds on to the couch. If I put the same hand up between my dog and the couch and when her snout touches it, my hand is firm and unyielding... she reluctantly returns to her nest on the ground.


Some times I'm quite firm out "KNOCK IT OFF" or I'm quite ridgid in my stiff arm. Yet she's hyper because she just ate breakfast or whatever and doesn't lay off. She gets a smack on the snout.

at which point she reluctantly returns to her nest on the ground.



It is not until my dog bites or barks at me to assert her position on my couch that I will sharply escort my pup to her cage.



If the day ever comes that I pass out on my couch inebriated and wake up in the morning to the dog licking my tushy? I'm just going to hope and pray no body posted any pictures on the internet. Putting the dog in her cage? Probably unnecessary, I think "KNOCK IT OFF" would quickly suffice.
 
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I do not agree with the underlying notion that a conscious free agent has to give their consent to have sex.

It is my underlying belief that one must ASSERTIVELY DENY another's advances before it could be said that they did not consent.

Yeah, I think that's where we disagree. I do not think consent is implied simply because a person didn't assertively deny consent. I suppose I can steal from you as long as you don't tell me not to? I can punch you in the face as long as you don't defend yourself or tell me you don't want me to do that? I can build a house on your property unless you tell me not to? I know I traversing topics, but the principle remains.

Part of the NAP, (and part of being a man, in my opinion) is that you don't act in a manner that affects someone else unless you are sure that they actively consent. Not that they just didn't deny consent.
 
Yeah, I think that's where we disagree. I do not think consent is implied simply because a person didn't assertively deny consent. I suppose I can steal from you as long as you don't tell me not to? I can punch you in the face as long as you don't defend yourself or tell me you don't want me to do that? I can build a house on your property unless you tell me not to? I know I traversing topics, but the principle remains.

Part of the NAP, (and part of being a man, in my opinion) is that you don't act in a manner that affects someone else unless you are sure that they actively consent. Not that they just didn't deny consent.

Under current law, if I build a house on your property, you know about it and you don't actively stop me, I get the house and the land that its on by adverse possession as long as I hold onto it for 7 years in most states. I know you probably don't agree with that, but it's the law.

Let's look at the punch in the face. If you don boxing gloves, get in a ring with me, hold up your hands and dance around, and I punch you in the face.....I'm guilty of what? Oh, but if a woman invites a man into her bed, she voluntarily gets naked first, she lets him start to penetrate, says "no" part way in, and he doesn't stop at that exact instant (a millisecond is too late), we're going to treat him the same as we treat the men who beat up some woman's husband and tied him to a tree and gang raped his wife as he watched? Something's wrong here. Something's dreadfully wrong.
 
Under current law, if I build a house on your property, you know about it and you don't actively stop me, I get the house and the land that its on by adverse possession as long as I hold onto it for 7 years in most states. I know you probably don't agree with that, but it's the law.
I'm aware of squatting laws. I didn't think we agreed with those.

Let's look at the punch in the face. If you don boxing gloves, get in a ring with me, hold up your hands and dance around, and I punch you in the face.....I'm guilty of what?
Even in MMA, you have the opportunity to tap out. If your opponent keeps punching you after you've tapped out (removed your consent), then not only would he be a dick, be punished by a commission, but he could also be liable for assault. Certainly, the reaction time needs to be taken into consideration, but if the "reaction" time goes too long, it's goes beyond, "I couldn't stop" and goes into, "It was fun, and easy to continue."
 
I'm aware of squatting laws. I didn't think we agreed with those.

We? Who's "we?" I guess you mean "libertarians?" From what I've seen they are all over the place on land ownership rules.

Even in MMA, you have the opportunity to tap out. If your opponent keeps punching you after you've tapped out (removed your consent), then not only would he be a dick, be punished by a commission, but he could also be liable for assault. Certainly, the reaction time needs to be taken into consideration, but if the "reaction" time goes too long, it's goes beyond, "I couldn't stop" and goes into, "It was fun, and easy to continue."

"Tapping" out is the same as a woman actively saying "no." That's not the "you must have active consent rather than active denial" position you had adopted. And sure, if it's established that a woman said "no" and the guy was like "I don't care what you said. I'm going to keep going until I'm finished" then that's rape. But this standard we've created where a reasonable man can believe he has consent and still be convicted of rape is asinine. Oh, and on the MMA example, the fighter would not be convicted of anything. That's why there are refs. They have the responsibility to see that the other person has tapped and to pull the fighter off if necessary. In that situation the fighter might not even notice the tap with the noise of the crowd and the adrenaline going on. As a fighter you put yourself in that position knowing that there's a risk you might get hurt. If you go join a "fight club" where there is no commission and are no professional refs and you get seriously hurt....well don't come crying to me.
 
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Yeah, I think that's where we disagree. I do not think consent is implied simply because a person didn't assertively deny consent. I suppose I can steal from you as long as you don't tell me not to? I can punch you in the face as long as you don't defend yourself or tell me you don't want me to do that? I can build a house on your property unless you tell me not to? I know I traversing topics, but the principle remains.

Part of the NAP, (and part of being a man, in my opinion) is that you don't act in a manner that affects someone else unless you are sure that they actively consent. Not that they just didn't deny consent.


But you are assuming sexual acts are acts of agression which goes back to WAGGING THE DOG.

If you intend to steal and then steal something, you are stealing


If you intend to have sex and proceed to have sex, and then get denied (or back away when you realize the other person is unconscious) you're not doing anything innately aggressive.


Oh... pardon me. I got the wrong signal. Let me put it away.


It is not until you are DENIED or come to a CONCLUSION that the other person is LIMP, no free agency, UNCONSCIOUS that you have any duty to care for them as an incompetent.




Let me just remind everyone that this girl was a consenting age ADULT in the State of Ohio. She may not be able to vote, enlist, drink or smoke, but in Ohio she has the sole AUTHORITY over her sex; we are not talking about an older man having his way with legal minor.
 
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lol. Out of context quote was out of context. Nice try.

In context, I said even in MMA, the fighter has the opportunity to remove consent. If you do not have the opportunity to remove consent, the act cannot be deemed consensual. In this case, her ability to deny her consent was incredibly compromised.

I suppose there was nothing they could do to this girl that you would deem inappropriate. What if they bit her? "All part of the act, she didn't complain". What if they inserted electrical probes into her? "hey, we thought she'd be ok with it, she didn't tell us not to!" Your position gives these creeps free rein to whatever they feel like doing to her after she can no longer deny her consent. Like I said previously, just because she may have considered consenting to sex with them earlier in the night, there's no way a reasonable person could assume she was in a position to consent to what they actually did to her.

Next time, if you're going to cherry pick quotes, you may want to keep them in context.
 
Under current law, if I build a house on your property, you know about it and you don't actively stop me, I get the house and the land that its on by adverse possession as long as I hold onto it for 7 years in most states. I know you probably don't agree with that, but it's the law.

That is not quite right. If you build on my land and I allow it but periodically reassert my dominion, no adverse possession exists. You occupy that land in that house by dint of my good humor and nothing more. If you build on my house and I am unaware, you could be there 100 years and no adverse possession would be in effect. The conditions for adverse possession are that you are on my land, that I am aware of it, and that I assert no claim to that land for 7 years, or 20 in the case of NJ. If every 6.5 years I mail you a certified letter reasserting my ownership, you have bupkis.

Let's look at the punch in the face. If you don boxing gloves, get in a ring with me, hold up your hands and dance around, and I punch you in the face.....I'm guilty of what? Oh, but if a woman invites a man into her bed, she voluntarily gets naked first, she lets him start to penetrate, says "no" part way in, and he doesn't stop at that exact instant (a millisecond is too late), we're going to treat him the same as we treat the men who beat up some woman's husband and tied him to a tree and gang raped his wife as he watched? Something's wrong here. Something's dreadfully wrong.

Agreed. The perspectives are very screwed up. I have met hundreds of women who, despite being very "hot" were ultimately painfully unattractive precisely because of their world views. At this point things are so screwed upside down that it really behooves men to take the greatest caution in the liaisons in which they choose to involve themselves. The so-called "feminist" movement went off the rails 30 years ago and the current environment of institutionalized PC has made things very risky for men.
 
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