No, Young Kids Don't Need a Father

[Eroberer]

I did not mean that anyone showing any degree of narcissistic traits shouldn't be a parent. You are right, everyone has selfish tendencies. It is who we are. I am referring to those who only use people as objects of manipulation. Those lacking empathy and the ability to distinguish between what is true and what is not. Nobody needs someone like that as a parent. I've seen the damage that does and am in the process of trying to help repair such damage (a child in the aforementioned age range).

I have quite a bit of personal experience with this and do not consider it bullshit. You can replace the father with another father figure, when the replacement does a better job.

 

[timosman]

I did not mean that anyone showing any degree of narcissistic traits shouldn't be a parent. You are right, everyone has selfish tendencies. It is who we are. I am referring to those who only use people as objects of manipulation. Those lacking empathy and the ability to distinguish between what is true and what is not. Nobody needs someone like that as a parent. I've seen the damage that does and am in the process of trying to help repair such damage (a child in the aforementioned age range).

How do you determine the lack of empathy? How about psychopaths who only pretend to have one? How much empathy does HRC have? Are you a simpleton?

 

[tod evans]

I did not mean that anyone showing any degree of narcissistic traits shouldn't be a parent. You are right, everyone has selfish tendencies. It is who we are. I am referring to those who only use people as objects of manipulation. Those lacking empathy and the ability to distinguish between what is true and what is not. Nobody needs someone like that as a parent. I've seen the damage that does and am in the process of trying to help repair such damage (a child in the aforementioned age range).

I have quite a bit of personal experience with this and do not consider it bullshit. You can replace the father with another father figure, when the replacement does a better job.

I'm currently dealing with a similar situation in reverse.

Only thing is I'll not ever try to replace my son's mother with another. She's his mother come hell or high water and she'll be the one who has to deal with the behavior she exhibits.

I can, single-handedly, set an example of proper parenting.

If I decide to enter into another romantic relationship while my child is still a minor it will be for my benefit and not his, and this will be understood by everyone going in.

He's been exposed to the revolving door of wallets attached to dicks for years now and that behavior can only be countermanded by proper social behavior on my part.

So....................From my point of view replacing either parent is bullshit and I believe detrimental to the child's mental health.

Phill talked about using fathers/uncles or brothers as role models, and that I can see during the formative years but bringing in a lover to try and fill the role of the other parent is something completely different, something only a true narcissist would do.

 

[tod evans]

Furthermore.........

Many women consider themselves to be one with the child, when the man repudiates her behavior she automatically assumes he's repudiating the child too.

And why shouldn't she? She's been taught that the child is hers to wield like a weapon if she so chooses, her ticket to financial security. With she and the child as one she can behave any way she likes and suffer no immediate effects.

Some women behave differently but these women tend to be both intelligent and mature and seldom have relationship problems that would cause familial breakdown...

Whether you're XX or XY kids are serious business, your legacy to the world, if you fuck-up and have them with the wrong person you owe it to your child to be the very best parent you can. Don't try to replace their bad parent, that only teaches that people are replaceable. Place your child above your own desires and show them how a responsible parent behaves.

 

[PierzStyx]

My ole lady has a wonderful son. Grew him up all by herself. $#@! a bunch of statistics.

Stats are not assurances. Your lady's son fell into the positive side. So did I. Doesn't invalidate anything though.