I lost custody of my son for refusing to vaccinate

Hello Lesa Dawn,

I see you had to repeat some stuff for me that you had said earlier. Sorry for missing that.

One point on the "best interest of the child" standard. Courts can factor in things that are perfectly constitutional for you to do in determining that they are not in your child's "best interest". And courts can and do get it wrong. Sometimes a higher court will overturn a ruling because they decided the lower court abused its discretion in applying the standard.

Also I don't think you're a bad mother (from what you've described) or that your child would be better off with his dad. But it doesn't matter what I think. My reason for asking the questions is to understand what "reasoning" the court used, as screwed up as it may be. That's the only way I know to fight this.

Interesting Supreme Court case you posted. It's definitely helpful. I was hoping to find a holding directly on vaccination that said the same thing with regards to vaccination and religious exemptions.

Sorry for the long read on I posted. This was the part that is really important to your case:

In Sherr v. Northport-East Northport Union Free School District,148 a federal district court upheld an exemption for children of parents with “sincere religious beliefs,” but found a provision requiring them to be “bona fide members of a recognized religious organization” in violation of the Establishment Clause. Other courts have found inapposite. A federal district court in Kentucky, for example, held that exemption for “nationally recognized and established church or religious denomination” did not violate the Establishment Clause.149
To the extent that statutory religious exemptions to school vaccination laws discriminate against persons with non-established religious beliefs, it has been argued that the provisions violate equal protection of the law under the Fourteenth Amendment.150 The Equal Protection Clause prohibits government from intentionally discriminating against individuals of suspect classes (e.g., classes based on race, religion, national origin, or sex). In Dalli v. Board of Education,151 a Massachusetts state court found that a state exemption for objectors who subscribe to “tenets and practice of a recognized church or religious denomination” violates equal protection by extending preferred treatment to these groups while denying it to others with sincere, though unrecognized, religious objections. In Brown v. Stone,152 the Mississippi Supreme Court held that a religious exemption violates equal protection of the laws because it “discriminates against the great majority of children whose parents have no such religious
convictions.”


This is from page 41 and 42 of what I posted earlier.

http://www.publichealthlaw.net/Research/PDF/vaccine.pdf

Note that none of the cases I cited are Supreme Court cases so the aren't binding in Missouri, but they might be persuasive.

You asked "What is a Pantheist"? A Pantheist is someone who believes God is in everything. (I know I'm not giving the belief justice.) The important thing to note for this discussion is that it's not a religion with any structure. (At least not in the U.S. according to the trial testimony). So neither mother could say "My Pantheistic religion teaches that we can't get vaccines"?

Now I'm not arguing that the courts should look at the sincerity of religious beliefs. Just pointing out what one federal court held in one case. If your going to use this defense, the stronger you can argue about the religious sincerity of this belief the better off you are. A belief that vaccines will affect your child's soul salvation is more persuasive under current law than a sincere belief that it might irreparably harm his health. (Stupid I know. But that's current law.)

But that's not the only angle you can take.

Again it's important to know precisely what statute the court made it's ruling under. You've mentioned "medical neglect" a couple of times. I found this:

http://www.moga.mo.gov/statutes/c200-299/2100000166.htm
The division of family services, any juvenile officer, any physician licensed under chapter 334, RSMo, any hospital or other health care institution, and any other person or institution authorized by state or federal law to provide medical care may bring an action in the circuit court in the county where any child under eighteen years of age resides or is located, alleging the child is suffering from the denial or deprivation, by those responsible for the care, custody, and control of the child, of medical or surgical treatment or intervention which is necessary to remedy or ameliorate a medical condition which is life-threatening or causes injury......

Not being vaccinated is (arguably) not a "life-threatening" condition. Just look at the lifespan of the Amish. Also if not being vaccinated is "life-threatening" then how can the state justify not requiring vaccinations for children who are not enrolled in "public, parochial or private" schools?

I also found this. (The religious exemption for the medical neglect law).

http://www.moga.mo.gov/statutes/c200-299/2100000115.htm
3. Notwithstanding any other provision of sections 210.109 to 210.183, any child who does not receive specified medical treatment by reason of the legitimate practice of the religious belief of the child's parents, guardian, or others legally responsible for the child, for that reason alone, shall not be found to be an abused or neglected child, and such parents, guardian or other persons legally responsible for the child shall not be entered into the central registry. However, the division may accept reports concerning such a child and may subsequently investigate or conduct a family assessment as a result of that report. Such an exception shall not limit the administrative or judicial authority of the state to ensure that medical services are provided to the child when the child's health requires it.

Last point. I agree with your lawyer. You are being railroaded. But in order to avoid the train you need to know what track it's on. Good luck and God bless!
 
It seems as though very few folks participating in the thread are clear on exactly what is going on. I feel like maybe we're only getting parts of the story, or perhaps the manner in which certain parts have been "revealed" have clouded the discussion...

I went from thinking the state took the child away CPS-kidnapping style because she refused to vaccinate the child, and then handed the child over to the father... what it's now starting to sound like to me is that the "medical neglect" aspect is just one part of a broader case that the father has made against the mother (likely in court).

Is this not correct?

I never implied that CPS was involved.

Yes, the father did make other allegations that were frivalous and false. They are as follows:

1) That I enrolled my son in public school versus private school as per the original agreement.

He was proven to be a liar on the witness stand when it was show that the original order dictated my son was to be enrolled in public school in my district.

2) He claimed that I was trying to make him pay for the school lunch balance when he always sent our son to school with lunch or lunch money on his days.

He was proven to be a liar on the witness stand when school records showed that my son went to school without lunch money on the days his father took him.

3) He claimed that I am too difficult to coparent with.

He testified that not only did he always get his court appointed visitation, but that he was also always given extra time when he asked. It was also established that he was more than six months behind on his child support. Although I knew that the state would enforce the child support at no cost to me, I never pursued collection even though he could afford to take off work (without pay) and vacation in Mexico and bought a new truck, I still didn't go after him for child support arrears.

In summary, I gave him all of his parenting time and more every time he asked and didn't enforce the child support order. I sound really difficult don't I.

4) My son was not vaccinated. = Guilty as charged

These are the ONLY allegations made against me by the dad.

Dad had a legal right to vaccinate at any time and NINE years to do it. He did not have to take me to court to do it.

According to Missouri Law, "if ONE parent or guardian objects in writing to his school administrator against the immunization of the child, because of religious beliefs "
http://www.nvic.org/Vaccine-Laws/state-vaccine-requirements/missouri.aspx

Unfortunately dad's motivation had nothing to do with the best interest of the child and was for revenge. He admitted in mediation that it had nothing to do with vaccines and was because he was upset that I had started dating and that he still wanted to get married. Too bad the mediator couldn't testify.

However, regardless of what dad did or did not do, it was the COURT who accused me of medical neglect for not vaccinating (which is ironic because shouldn't dad have been guilty too?). It was the COURT that appointed a provaccine guardian. It was the COURT that took him away from his mother. This same court then went on to say that it is the child's best interest to have free and liberal contact with the mother. Would they have done this if there was any indication that I am unfit? They took away custody and any decision making power solely because I don't vaccinate.

For more details and a description of what a fit parent dad is, see my answer to jmdrake on page ten of this thread.

Why would I make this up? What purpose would it serve?
 
Pardon my candor, but that is FUCKED UP.

I would kill them all, but don't follow my example.

I take it you cannot get junior away from his father, right? If you could I would suggest you take him to Brazil and tell the USA to screw themselves. This is rank insanity.

Seems the boy's father doesn't care much for him, is that correct? I mean, calling him "stupid" and all that. If he doesn't want him, adopt him out to someone you know (barring that, I'd even take him) and then take him back when you move to another state. I have real personal issues with the abuse of children, especially this sort.

What shit hole of a state are you cursed with living in, by the way?

Hello, osan and welcome to this thread. I like your candor and hope you'll stick around. Your post made me :) and not much does these days.

I am going to try a legal remedy first and then all bets are off. (I am joking of course because we don't know who could be reading this)

Missouri aka Misery
 
When I began graduate school at CCNY in NYC I was told I would have to show proof of vaccination. I contemplated getting a note from my step father (doctor), but decided that the requirement was bullshit, so I told them that the requirement violated my first Amendment right because vaccination is against my religious belief. They then asked to what religion I belonged in an attempt to defeat me on that basis. To that I replied that my religious beliefs are my own and that they had no basis for asking such questions. They shut their traps, but asked that I give a written and signed statement to that effect, which I did, and I was allowed to register with the notice that if an epidemic broke out, I could be barred from attending classes. Yeah, whatever. Assholes.

Don't take shit from anyone. Fight them and their nonsense tooth and nail.

Good for you! It seems we are losing so many freedoms because people are to scared to make a stand. It is always nice to meet a fellow patriot who actually practices what they preach.
 
Hello Lesa Dawn,

I see you had to repeat some stuff for me that you had said earlier. Sorry for missing that.

One point on the "best interest of the child" standard. Courts can factor in things that are perfectly constitutional for you to do in determining that they are not in your child's "best interest". And courts can and do get it wrong. Sometimes a higher court will overturn a ruling because they decided the lower court abused its discretion in applying the standard.

Also I don't think you're a bad mother (from what you've described) or that your child would be better off with his dad. But it doesn't matter what I think. My reason for asking the questions is to understand what "reasoning" the court used, as screwed up as it may be. That's the only way I know to fight this.

Interesting Supreme Court case you posted. It's definitely helpful. I was hoping to find a holding directly on vaccination that said the same thing with regards to vaccination and religious exemptions.

Sorry for the long read on I posted. This was the part that is really important to your case:

In Sherr v. Northport-East Northport Union Free School District,148 a federal district court upheld an exemption for children of parents with “sincere religious beliefs,” but found a provision requiring them to be “bona fide members of a recognized religious organization” in violation of the Establishment Clause. Other courts have found inapposite. A federal district court in Kentucky, for example, held that exemption for “nationally recognized and established church or religious denomination” did not violate the Establishment Clause.149
To the extent that statutory religious exemptions to school vaccination laws discriminate against persons with non-established religious beliefs, it has been argued that the provisions violate equal protection of the law under the Fourteenth Amendment.150 The Equal Protection Clause prohibits government from intentionally discriminating against individuals of suspect classes (e.g., classes based on race, religion, national origin, or sex). In Dalli v. Board of Education,151 a Massachusetts state court found that a state exemption for objectors who subscribe to “tenets and practice of a recognized church or religious denomination” violates equal protection by extending preferred treatment to these groups while denying it to others with sincere, though unrecognized, religious objections. In Brown v. Stone,152 the Mississippi Supreme Court held that a religious exemption violates equal protection of the laws because it “discriminates against the great majority of children whose parents have no such religious
convictions.”


This is from page 41 and 42 of what I posted earlier.

http://www.publichealthlaw.net/Research/PDF/vaccine.pdf

Note that none of the cases I cited are Supreme Court cases so the aren't binding in Missouri, but they might be persuasive.

You asked "What is a Pantheist"? A Pantheist is someone who believes God is in everything. (I know I'm not giving the belief justice.) The important thing to note for this discussion is that it's not a religion with any structure. (At least not in the U.S. according to the trial testimony). So neither mother could say "My Pantheistic religion teaches that we can't get vaccines"?

Now I'm not arguing that the courts should look at the sincerity of religious beliefs. Just pointing out what one federal court held in one case. If your going to use this defense, the stronger you can argue about the religious sincerity of this belief the better off you are. A belief that vaccines will affect your child's soul salvation is more persuasive under current law than a sincere belief that it might irreparably harm his health. (Stupid I know. But that's current law.)

But that's not the only angle you can take.

Again it's important to know precisely what statute the court made it's ruling under. You've mentioned "medical neglect" a couple of times. I found this:

http://www.moga.mo.gov/statutes/c200-299/2100000166.htm
The division of family services, any juvenile officer, any physician licensed under chapter 334, RSMo, any hospital or other health care institution, and any other person or institution authorized by state or federal law to provide medical care may bring an action in the circuit court in the county where any child under eighteen years of age resides or is located, alleging the child is suffering from the denial or deprivation, by those responsible for the care, custody, and control of the child, of medical or surgical treatment or intervention which is necessary to remedy or ameliorate a medical condition which is life-threatening or causes injury......

Not being vaccinated is (arguably) not a "life-threatening" condition. Just look at the lifespan of the Amish. Also if not being vaccinated is "life-threatening" then how can the state justify not requiring vaccinations for children who are not enrolled in "public, parochial or private" schools?

I also found this. (The religious exemption for the medical neglect law).

http://www.moga.mo.gov/statutes/c200-299/2100000115.htm
3. Notwithstanding any other provision of sections 210.109 to 210.183, any child who does not receive specified medical treatment by reason of the legitimate practice of the religious belief of the child's parents, guardian, or others legally responsible for the child, for that reason alone, shall not be found to be an abused or neglected child, and such parents, guardian or other persons legally responsible for the child shall not be entered into the central registry. However, the division may accept reports concerning such a child and may subsequently investigate or conduct a family assessment as a result of that report. Such an exception shall not limit the administrative or judicial authority of the state to ensure that medical services are provided to the child when the child's health requires it.

Last point. I agree with your lawyer. You are being railroaded. But in order to avoid the train you need to know what track it's on. Good luck and God bless!

Thank you for your posts. You are a plethora of much needed knowledge.

Rand Paul won the Republican nomination! There might still be hope for this once great nation. My great grandfather survived the Trail of Tears and I can survive this!
 
Again, if the court was looking out for the best interest of the child, would they take him away from a mother with no criminal record or history of alcohol and/or drug abuse and give him to a father that is a documented alcohlic?

Dad has been in in-patient alcohol rehab at least three times, he was evicted from a half way house for alcohlics, he pled guilty to assault on a Police officer and served jail time and also violated his probation.

Shit... I was once involved with an alcoholic. They can be very bad news and in general they are, exceptions being the rare case. I am sure there is nothing I can say here that you do not already know, to all I can really do is send you my best wishes. I know you want to do all of this legally, and I would not presume to advise you except to keep in mind that time is a factor.

Good luck and I hope you sue the state of Misery into receivership.
 
I didn't look through the entire thread. However, it's impossible to talk about this situation without first seeing the court document granting custody of your child to your husband.

Some questions:

1. What criteria did the judge/jury use in granting custody?

2. What type of custody is it? Sole custody?

There's a process for all of this. You have the right to appeal. If the decision was based purely on your refusal to vaccinate, you'll win. If there are other issues, maybe not. We'd have to see the documentation to see what's going on.
 
The government kidnapped your child?! I've filled out religious exemption forms in my name and I didn't lose custody of myself! I wish I could help but I have no idea how.
 
Shit... I was once involved with an alcoholic. They can be very bad news and in general they are, exceptions being the rare case. I am sure there is nothing I can say here that you do not already know, to all I can really do is send you my best wishes. I know you want to do all of this legally, and I would not presume to advise you except to keep in mind that time is a factor.

Good luck and I hope you sue the state of Misery into receivership.

Thank you, Osan. I need as much encouragement as I can get!
 
The government kidnapped your child?! I've filled out religious exemption forms in my name and I didn't lose custody of myself! I wish I could help but I have no idea how.

Hello, Warrior and welcome to the thread. Your post made me smile. As I posted earlier, Missouri law dictates that the religious exclusion applies if one parent fills out the form.
 
I didn't look through the entire thread. However, it's impossible to talk about this situation without first seeing the court document granting custody of your child to your husband.

Some questions:

1. What criteria did the judge/jury use in granting custody?

2. What type of custody is it? Sole custody?

There's a process for all of this. You have the right to appeal. If the decision was based purely on your refusal to vaccinate, you'll win. If there are other issues, maybe not. We'd have to see the documentation to see what's going on.

Hello, furface and welcome.

1) It was a commissioner, not a judge or jury. She gave dad custody because I don't vaccinate. This is the only reason. She also blamed me for all of my son's school tardies even though dad took him to school half of the time. For example, he was tardy eight times in the last semester. According to the dates, six were dad's and two were mine. However, even if they had all been mine (and they were not - most were dad's) this would be a minor reason to take a well adjusted nine year old with good grades away from mom. Now that he is with dad, he still is frequently tardy and is now also missing a lot of school and getting in trouble and his grades have dropped.

2) Yes, he has sole legal and joint physical which means nothing as I rarely get to see him and have NO say in any decisions.
 
I Googled this Commissioner

I googled this commissioner and so far I have only found two of her cases.

The first is a case where she took another nine year old boy away from his mother because she dared to homeschool him:

http://caselaw.findlaw.com/mo-court-of-appeals/1273342.html

The second case she also took a son away from his mother and gave him to the father. The background is as follows:

The background on this case does not say who the judge was on the divorce, but it was NOT this commissioner. In the original divorce, the dad was granted SUPERVISED visitation.

Then the dad filed for modification and lucky for him, this commissioner was assigned. This commissioner gave him UNsupervised visitation.

IMMEDIATELY there after, the son started coming home from visits with bruising and claiming dad hit and pinched him. DFS was called and abuse was substantiated. The DFS case worker instructed the mom to NOT let the dad have UNsupervised visits.


Within six months of the UNsupervised visitation order, dad was filing again asking for custody. The DFS worker testified on mom's behalf saying the abuse was substantiated and that she had instructed mom to deny the visits.

This commissioner gave custody to the DAD and found the MOM in contempt of court and gave her jail time.


What is going on in Missouri with this commissioner? One attorney told me that she does not like feminine women (she herself is very masculine) or she feels boys should live with their fathers regardless of how unfit and abusive they are.
 
I googled this commissioner and so far I have only found two of her cases.

The first is a case where she took another nine year old boy away from his mother because she dared to homeschool him:

http://caselaw.findlaw.com/mo-court-of-appeals/1273342.html

The second case she also took a son away from his mother and gave him to the father. The background is as follows:

The background on this case does not say who the judge was on the divorce, but it was NOT this commissioner. In the original divorce, the dad was granted SUPERVISED visitation.

Then the dad filed for modification and lucky for him, this commissioner was assigned. This commissioner gave him UNsupervised visitation.

IMMEDIATELY there after, the son started coming home from visits with bruising and claiming dad hit and pinched him. DFS was called and abuse was substantiated. The DFS case worker instructed the mom to NOT let the dad have UNsupervised visits.


Within six months of the UNsupervised visitation order, dad was filing again asking for custody. The DFS worker testified on mom's behalf saying the abuse was substantiated and that she had instructed mom to deny the visits.

This commissioner gave custody to the DAD and found the MOM in contempt of court and gave her jail time.


What is going on in Missouri with this commissioner? One attorney told me that she does not like feminine women (she herself is very masculine) or she feels boys should live with their fathers regardless of how unfit and abusive they are.

I neglected to post the link for the second case.

http://caselaw.findlaw.com/mo-court-of-appeals/1164705.html
 
I recently lost custody of my nine year old son due to my refusal to vaccinate. I was accused of medical neglect even though he did NOT suffer adversly for my refusal to vaccinate. A Guardian was appointed and told me that failure to vaccinate is medical neglect. She also said that the religious exemption does not apply to me as I am neither RLDS nor Amish.

My son, who I now rarely get to see, is now living with his father. He is emotionally traumatized and begging to come home. He is not being bathed nor is he brushing his teeth regularly. He is wetting the bed and frequently missing school. His grades have dropped from straight As and he is often tardy and in trouble in school. He has had four days of In School Suspension. He says his dad calls him stupid and a$$hole. I could go into greater detail about how my son is now abused and neglected, but I won't.

I was interviewed on the radio show Lives In The Balance hosted by Jason Littlejohn :
http://www.mediafire.com/?yzmmy4l14d1

Also, the Supreme court has weighed in on this one, so how can a lower court take away my child from me for something the Supreme Court has ruled is my Constitutional right.

Quote:
Applicable law has been interpreted to mean that a religious belief is subject to protection even though no religious group espouses such beliefs or the fact that the religious group to which the individual professes to belong may not advocate or require such belief. Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964 as amended Nov. 1, 1980; Part 1605.1-Guidelines on Discrimination Because of Religion.

Our legal rights are guaranteed by the free exercise clause of the First Amendment to the U.S. Constitution. Recent court decisions have upheld the rights of individuals seeking exemptions from immunizations based upon personal and religious reasons. On the U.S. Supreme Court level in Frazee V. Illinois Dept. of Security, 489 U.S. 829, it was found that a state may not deny an exemption simply because a person is not a member of a formal religious organization.

I am new to this forum, but have been an avid Ron Paul supporter and campaign contributer since 2007.

I sincerley hope you and your son, reunite very soon. These times we are living are going to push me to the brink
 
I hope you dont mind I posted your dilemma in our forum as well. It really hit hard.
Hope all the best for you.
PG
 
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