The only time I was happy with my Ex after year two was when we were both sleeping in the same bed (warm in the winter, somehwat comfortable in the summer)...and I do mean sleeping! Cohabitation isn't the problem, being awake while cohabitating is the problem. Monogamy isn't natural in the longterm (short term it's very natural). Biologists have shown that the "7 year itch" actually occurs about 24 months after child birth occurs, meaning that two years after your last kid is born you can't stand each other for a reason...nature. Males were never meant to raise kids all the way from birth to adulthood...that's just an artificial construct of repressive religions. Only about 3% of species are monogamous, and most of those are monogamous for one mating season. We're supposed to breed, raise the kid until the female can take care of him/her on their own (in other words hunt/gather/go to work while the child is not with her for needed breast feedings), and them move on and repeat the process. That's how the human species perpetuates itself. In other news, love is a chemical reaction (mostly in mammals) in the brain and is purely a product of our physical brain, not an objective thing that all species feel. It's nature's little trick on those species with higher functioning brains (unlike, for example, reptiles) that enables them to rationalize their irrational actions...like breeding before they can afford to. It's fun, love, but it's just a chemical reaction. There really is no such thing. But that doesn't make it any less enjoyable, or worth pursuing for about 2 years. Just be aware, it goes away. Don't fight nature...you'll lose (either by them leaving you, or by you limiting your life experiences and genes to one mate).
BTW, the free love movement wasn't started by leftist hippies...it was started by individualists in the 19th century (the fore fathers of today's libertarianism).
Much win in this post. The whole marriage issue is one of the prime examples of the inordinate human "social" drive to adopt absolutely idiotic "values" and force them upon the individual most often to his misery and in some ways and degrees his destruction.
In this case, the classical notions of "marriage", be they Jewish, Christian, Hindu, Muslim, or pick your own major subdivision, are idiotic in the perverse extreme in that they do two things. Firstly, they impose what may otherwise be reasonably viewed as a perfectly natural proclivity (limited monogamy) upon the individual for an unnatural duration (until death do you part, i.e., temporally
forced monogamy). Secondly, they prohibit you from engaging in certain sorts of free-association with your fellows, if not married. Back in the day, your ass could find itself in very hot water were you to simply shack up - especially if you were a woman (slut!
whore!!) - all arbitrary bullshit.
Knowing that this was indeed arbitrary bullshit that did great violence to the natural right of the individual to exercise his inborn prerogatives along so many lines, the originators had to provide an unbreakable reason in the minds of people as to why it
wasn't such. Then came the stroke of genius: "D00ds, this isn't
my idea; it is the will of
God. Hey, I'd let y'all fuck any which way until you went blind, but God says it's a no-no and that anyone caught at it without being married is to be punished. If you have an issue with it, take it up with God and see whether he will change his mind." That last bit, being unlikely to happen in any way convincing to the
human authority, pretty well sews up that authority to force people into having to decide whether to comply with the law or break it, whether to risk the consequences by breaking it, and whether to be stuck with someone you ultimately decide is no longer (perhaps never was) right for you.
No such authority to impose does any human being hold over another and I believe most firmly that the early empires, having arisen amidst the most ancient
anarchistic tribal cultures, were keenly aware of this and that the rest of the population were as well. Therefore, the fiat had to issue from an unimpeachable authority: God. It has worked like a charm, for even in a time where men have sent other men to the moon, fly about the earth in supersonic cigar tubes, and hold in their hands the power to eradicate the world's largest cities with the turning of a pair of keys, we still cling to these wickedly unnatural and I daresay
idiotic notions, the momentum of "God's" imprimatur and mandate having carried them through the ages to our time and to our great detriment.
By and large, humans are timid creatures in and of themselves, but wishing to possess the boldness of that miniscule minority that comprises the greatest among them. For the most part, we are a Walter Mitty race. The only path that may even remotely lead beings of so tame and flimsy a weave to such relatively dizzying heights of
vicarious experience is to congeal themselves into a great mass that lies willingly at the command and behest of such superior men. They obsequiously lay to bed in such manner with their betters in the hope that they will be dragged along into greatness by the vortex wake that the superior man generates when he moves. It is
only through that mechanism that the lowly coward finds the nerve to fly beyond the stunted limits of his own shriveled soul because the bravado and will which he finds as a cog-member of the greater machinery is not actually his own but that of someone else; someone far and away greater than himself. It is the remote command that propels him forward under a sad illusion of his own courage, greatness, and
will. This, I am sad to say, is the nutshell summary of the human race as it has devolved since the first empires of antiquity. The species continues this proud tradition to this very day, promising nothing greater or fundamentally different into the foreseeable future.
