Originally Posted by osan 
No. "Gender" is an attribute of nouns, not human beings. Please check your ignorance at the door, thankyouverymuch.
As for the rest of it, no marriage as currently constituted in statutory practice is constitutional because the Constitution makes no provision for state control of that private arrangement between individuals.
As for valid marriages, i.e. the agreement between two or more private parties to be wed, that is protected under the 9A. Any choice that does not involve criminality is protected under the 9A. That is the ONLY possible valid interpretation of the Amendment. If you are not bringing direct harm to others, you are within your right to act, regardless of what the action might be. If you want to be wed to your reach-around buddy, you are well within your rights to proceed and nobody holds the least authority to prevent you, no matter how bitterly they may hate your choice.
Well, thx for the semantics lesson.
Pointless sarcasm that essentially concedes the issue, noted.
The word is "fuck". If you mean "FUCK your semantics", then at least be adult enough to use it. How do you expect anyone to take you seriously as an adult when you express yourself in sixth-grader style as if your mom was going to give it to you if she found out you said "fuck"? It is the same brand of nonsense as the use of "n-word". If you mean to say something, then say it. Otherwise, perhaps the deeper message there is that might do well to revise your internal position on the matter at hand. But as always, the choice is solely yours.
I'm going to use terms for their common meaning as they're commonly understood.
And so you choose the lesser path - the proverbial low road. That, too, is your prerogative. But be aware that smart people see it, understand the error, and assess your credibility accordingly, which is
their prerogative. This attitude you seem to manifest tells me that you hold an insufficient understanding of the deeper nature of language and its role in daily life. This is not surprising in the least, as the vast and overwhelming majority of people walking this rock appear to suffer from the same state of taking for granted the single most important thing any human being ever learns. You have NO idea what your life would be if you had not the facility of language. Even I have no idea, and I am confident when I assert that it is very likely I have spent a whole lot more time down this rabbit hole than have you. Even I cannot because I am incapable of escaping language as the rudiment and framework of my thought processes. I can only imagine what it would be like to have no language, but cannot actually know because I am capable of abstract thought, which is possible only because of language. Once in place, one cannot escape these things... but who would want to, he result being an inarticulate lump of flesh, driven solely by responses to the hard-wired midbrain reflexes. Eat when hungry. Crap when too full. Copulate when dick speaks. Run from danger. And so on.
But you don't see any of that and by your own words you don't care. You're in charge here and you will speak as you please. By all means go ahead, but do not expect anyone with a better clue to pay you any heed. Gravity could care less whether you believe in it and will treat you according to the way you choose to act regardless of your professed opinion on it.
I'm not going to conform to your meaningless rules and terms that other ppl don't use, and I'm not going to pretend that your semantics lesson was worth the time you spent on it.
That is OK with me. I didn't write it for you. I wrote it partly for me, to keep my mind sharp on the issue, and for anybody else whose mind is not so stubbornly shut in vise-like fashion as seems to be the case with you. I may be misreading your tone, but you seem to be in a state of rebellion for its own sake. Your choice, but once again you cut your nose off to spite your face. Instead of endeavoring to learn a better truth, you piss, moan, and say "fuck you". I have lead the horse to water.
Now, onto your actual argument: You misunderstand the role of the US Constitution. The US Constitution lists federal powers, not state powers. So the US Constitution's lack of mention of a power regarding marriage is meaningless. What does matter is the fourteenth amendment, which you totally ignore, which says the states cannot discriminate. Therefore whatever program they have, they cannot discriminate.
Your analysis is deeply flawed, I am afraid. Firstly, your contention that I have ignored anything is incorrect. The relevance of the 14A takes a distant back seat to that of the 9A, which you might want to try reading one day... though given your severe and sad lack of linguistic skill I am not sure the effort will pay off in any profitable manner.
No, the 9th amendment does not trump the fourteenth. The 9th says that powers NOT DELEGATED TO THE FEDERAL GOVERNMENT were not so delegated. The power to stop the states from discriminating was delegated in the fourteenth amendment. According to your logic, the 9th amendment would abolish the entire constitution.
More analytic FAIL. Pointing this out is apparently a waste of time, so you believe what you want and I will continue doing likewise.
Originally Posted by osan 
That ain't naiveté, pal. That's flaming, bending, painful ignorance.
Still haven't said what the 14th amendment did that was so horrible.
I never said nor implied any such thing. Please show where this was done.
Originally Posted by osan 
More free? One is either free or is something else. There are no degrees of freedom, politically speaking.
You need some learning, so read this and get your head together: Degrees of Freedom
Okay fine, but my pt still stands. The US pre-Civil War was a disgusting, smelly, totalitarian shithole. And its awesome that we improved on it with the 13th and 14th amendments, and it sucked that we had to kill a whole lot of idiots to do it.
Concession noted.