Anyway the reason I said anarchism is more of a complaint is because I think "no government" is basically an impossible condition.
Then how did we have law, roads, trade, charity, defense, etc. for at least 8,000 years before the state came into existence? Having "no govt" is equivalent to the following: "having no legalized criminal organization of murderers and extortionists who yet outlaw all competitors while extolling their own need and virtue", and alternatively "crime is illegal for everyone, not just everyone except the parasitical political priest caste".
The state is not society. It did not invent society or civilized behavior. Statelessness predates the state by thousands of years, it lasted longer on average (despite nonsense, ahistorical claims it was incapable of law or defense), and it didn't legalize crime for a minority group called "politicians" and their thug enforcers. The state is not only unethical...which is inarguable using any logic whatsoever...but it is also an unnecessary evil.
As Benjamin Tucker once said
"The State is said by some to be a necessary evil; it must be made unnecessary."
How much time and money have you, or the state, spent on trying to make the state's necessity unnecessary? As technology, anthropological knowledge, and human intelligence has increased over the last 200,000 years of our anatomically modern existence, how much time and resources have been dedicated to this task? How is that the govt is claimed to be MORE necessary than ever, yet common sense would stipulate the changes over the last 200,000 years would make the markets MORE capable and govt LESS necessary to perform these tasks for society?
How is govt NOT antisocial? Antisocial behavior is generally understood to be behavior which violates the right of others repeatedly, is parasitic, and is directly and measurably harmful, defrauding, and endangers imminently. How is that not exactly what the state does?
And the word "govt" started off as a VERB, not a noun. "No govt" is statelessness if used as a noun (as you used it)...but as a verb (the original use) it is indeed impossible to have "no govt"...as you need to govern yourself in order not to violate the autonomy (or rights) of others (an act which is illegal in stateless societies). It matters how you use the word.
Anarchists aren't against you governing yourself, or you governing those incapable of consent (if you have kids, or a severely mentally disturbed or handicapped adult family member, etc.). We aren't even against you governing those who create victims (self defense, for example). We are against you coercively monopolizing governance, or cartelizing it, or turning certain markets into a monopsony, in order to threaten possible competitors in the markets of defense and nonviolent dispute resolution services (law) from better serving consumers with lower prices than the state provides, better quality service than the state gives, or with more accountability to the consumers that the state can't provide. We also are against you threatening consumers with the same rape cages and property seizure the state threatens competitors with to keep them away from consumers...in other words, we're against ALL taxes (extortion legalized), as that is forcing consumers to buy your product/services on the threat of violent reprisal (same as when you try to compete against the state).
Which markets do you think cease to exist when they aren't coercively cartelized, monopolized, or turned into monopsony? Which of these markets do you think DO NOT run on consumer demand purely (in the absence of the state), but instead exist only because coercion can make them exist? Why is it you think people don't demand defense and nonviolent dispute resolution on the markets? If they don't demand them on the market, why would the state feel it politically necessary to provide them? Why do they use them ("law and order" and "heroes" and "defense") as memes to sell other things they do if they aren't market demanded by the people at large?
What other markets require legalized organized crime (cartel, monopoly, monopsony) to run, and do not simply require market demand to create incentive for market supply?
The state is more of a complaint than a solution. It says "we can't have things the way we want, because of that damn Free Will thing, so we'll use coercion to get it, even if it sucks worse than the alternative - which we'll brainwash kids to believe is an untenable solution". Want wars you can't convince soldiers to fight of their own Free Will, and can't convince citizens are justified enough to fund? No problem...just form a state monopsony on "defense" (which usually is actually offensive, not defensive, more times than not). Don't have the ability to persuade people not to do things you deem objectionable (but are not victimizing non-consenting people capable of consent)? No problem...coercively cartelize the legal market, and eventually monopolize it therefore, and you can make them do as you say.
Just pretend the individuals cease to exist when the word "society" and "civilization" are used to describe masses of individuals....then you can claim someone or some group "harm society" without proving it by pointing out individuals who were actually victimized, and then you can also claim to do things for the "good of society" while trampling the rights of, and being a parasite on, individuals within that collective label.
Then you can use Orwellian doublespeak and doublethink, and the cognitive dissonance necessary to fuel them, to claim antisocial behavior like the state is necessary to protect and preserve society. Nothing, of course, could be more absurd.