Advice on being anti-social

[LibertiORDeth]

What do you mean you never went to highschool?

Not judging you, I'm a highschool drop out myself. Just curious about your situation.

I was sorta haphazardly home-schooled all my life, which ended after 8th grade, and about a year after that I applied at the community college here.

 

[LittleLightShining]

Maybe you should stop thinking about other people in terms of their inferiority to you but instead what you can do for them. Service to others is a gift to yourself.

 

[LibertiORDeth]

Maybe you should stop thinking about other people in terms of their inferiority to you but instead what you can do for them. Service to others is a gift to yourself.

I'm pretty selfless and all that, but I still can't quite do that, since I don't really care about people.

 

[specsaregood]

I don't hate people. I just feel better when they're not around.

Ya know, I swear that is a Bukowski quote, but I can't recall it exactly. If this is merely coincidental, then pick up "women" or "ham on rye" they might pull you out of your funk.

 

[LibertyEagle]

I'm still trying to pin down exactly what it is. I've always disliked people in that I find most people to be inferior in my opinion, however I still have liked being around and talking to people, and it might have to do as Andrew-Austin said with the people I'm around, but lately I've just had the urge to not go to class as I want to be alone, and to not be around people in general.

Put down the pipe.

 

[AutoDas]

I'm sure it is cause I got it from this forum. either way, you guys take politics way too seriously if it affects your social life.

 

[LittleLightShining]

I'm pretty selfless and all that, but I still can't quite do that, since I don't really care about people.

That's really sad

 

[constituent]

1) Anti-social ≠ doesn't like to be around people

2) I think you should f*n cry about it.



Oh yea, and listen to the eels. I find it helps...

YouTube - Modern Rail - Eels, Railroad Man

YouTube - Eels - Things The Grandchildren Should Know (Live)

YouTube - EELS Hey Man (Now You're Really Living) LIVE

 

[newbitech]

I have a friend who is sort of like what you describe. He doesn't like being around people. I think he just needs to find his niche.

Also, he does abuse prescription drugs occasionally, so I think that has something to do with it. Not saying that is your case, but it could just be that the time you are spending with yourself is not "quality" time.

But I am the same way, I get to certain points where I just don't feel like being around people. I have to turn my thoughts and focus inward. More than likely you have an internal blockage of energy that you would need to discover and dislodge.

If you would like some advice on how to handle this, I'd say spend as much alone time as you can get away with without disrupting your important relationships. You will want to remove this blockage of your energy flow asap. You'll need to find some creative ways of expressing yourself once you figure out what is holding you back.

I would also be a little concerned about seeing other people as inferior. This is an ego problem I would suspect. I often had heard complaints from family and friends that I come across as being a "know it all" or "high and mighty". This almost had me depressed until I realized that the problem is, I always seem to turn conversations around to talk about myself. So in order to change that, I started listening to other people more. Really listening and making an effort to remember what they say about themselves and try to find a deeper meaning in their words.

It has helped me to become more humble and to approach all people with humility and a humble tone. This allowed others to open up more to me because I didn't cause them to immediately put up their guard. I found that I started having more interesting and meaningful conversations.

Hope that helps you some.

 

[LibertiORDeth]

I have a friend who is sort of like what you describe. He doesn't like being around people. I think he just needs to find his niche.

Also, he does abuse prescription drugs occasionally, so I think that has something to do with it. Not saying that is your case, but it could just be that the time you are spending with yourself is not "quality" time.

But I am the same way, I get to certain points where I just don't feel like being around people. I have to turn my thoughts and focus inward. More than likely you have an internal blockage of energy that you would need to discover and dislodge.

If you would like some advice on how to handle this, I'd say spend as much alone time as you can get away with without disrupting your important relationships. You will want to remove this blockage of your energy flow asap. You'll need to find some creative ways of expressing yourself once you figure out what is holding you back.

I would also be a little concerned about seeing other people as inferior. This is an ego problem I would suspect. I often had heard complaints from family and friends that I come across as being a "know it all" or "high and mighty". This almost had me depressed until I realized that the problem is, I always seem to turn conversations around to talk about myself. So in order to change that, I started listening to other people more. Really listening and making an effort to remember what they say about themselves and try to find a deeper meaning in their words.

It has helped me to become more humble and to approach all people with humility and a humble tone. This allowed others to open up more to me because I didn't cause them to immediately put up their guard. I found that I started having more interesting and meaningful conversations.

Hope that helps you some.

I'm not seen by others as a know it all or superior to others, as I don't really portray that image, although it's true (to some extent).

 

[torchbearer]

anti-social is the most misused term ever.
look it up in the DSM.

 

[squarepusher]

Put down the pipe.

laulz

 

[anaconda]

Most people really suck. The key is to not feel that you're self image is necessarily related to them. This is potentially difficult. Or not!

 

[anaconda]

You have to quit pretending to be smarter or better than people.

You should watch the movie Good Will Hunting.


This is why I don't believe in homeschooling.

Very good film. Good Will Hunting. Yet, Will home schooled himself to great advantages.

 

[coyote_sprit]

anti-social is the most misused term ever.
look it up in the DSM.

I wouldn't go as far as to say that, I think liberal and conservative top it.

 

[heavenlyboy34]

You have to quit pretending to be smarter or better than people.

You should watch the movie Good Will Hunting.


This is why I don't believe in homeschooling.

You base your decisions for your children on Hollywood movies? You deserve what you get, then!