A Rising Share of Young Adults Live in Their Parents’ Home

[Austrian Econ Disciple]

What makes you think all women are provided for? I never wanted to depend on anyone and have generally made more money than the men in my life. That's a pretty broad assumption. When you depend on someone you become obligated.

Where did I say all? Females have the option available to them, men do not. This is why homelessness among men is MUCH higher than among women. Just the facts. I know it kills the feminists, but men don't have it all gravy. (We happen to also make up 93% of all OTJ deaths...)

 

[Austrian Econ Disciple]

I agree that there's nothing wrong with it as long as there's a compelling reason. In other countries, large extended families living under one roof is the norm. In the US, we all tend to see it as unusual unless such a living arrangement would be beneficial. Living at home and commuting to a local community college or university, has become more common and is pretty socially acceptable since it does save students a great deal of money and the average student's childhood bedroom or parent's basement, tend to be far nicer than the dorms.



Personally, I wouldn't mind supporting my spouse or being the breadwinner while he's a stay at home dad or working part time and taking on more of the caregiver duties. People aren't as accepting of stay at home dads and women supporting men, but that totally needs to change.

You're in the minority. It seems most women today want the feminist ideal and chivalry at the same time. Most Feminists today are Marie Antoinette's imho. Now, that said, I too would like to see more acceptance of role reversals, but I'm too prideful and independent to find myself staying at home and letting someone else take care of life responsibilities. I prefer dutch. 50/50, though, I guess I wouldn't be too opposed to finding a hot sugar mama lol.

You're also right that it is becoming more acceptable generally, but not in the dating scene. Folks in other countries live with extended family out of necessity because of economic conditions. We're becoming more and more 3rd world status with each generation. :/

 

[Origanalist]

I live in my wife's basement.

Please tell me that's comedy, or.........

 

[eduardo89]

Personally, I wouldn't mind supporting my spouse or being the breadwinner while he's a stay at home dad or working part time and taking on more of the caregiver duties. People aren't as accepting of stay at home dads and women supporting men, but that totally needs to change.

I completely disagree. A child needs his mother much more than his father for the first few years of life. That's not to give fathers a free pass to play minimal roles in their children's lives, obviously the father needs to be very involved, but a small child needs the nurturing only a mother can provide.

God made men and women different and those who think a man can simply replace a mother are extremely disrespectful to women.

Also, men need to grow some balls and learn how to lead and provide for their family. If you're a man and your woman is the one paying the bills you should be ashamed of yourself.

 

[Origanalist]

I was out at 17. I had a one month stay coming back from the land of fruits and nuts, it was terrible.

 

[fr33]

I could no longer abide by their rules and left at 18 living with friends and girlfriends for a few months until I found a place to rent.

I don't see a problem with young adults living with their parents as long as they pull their weight. Or any other adult for that matter (aunts/uncles/cousins). It seems important for people to get along well though.

 

[BetterCallSaul]

Where did I say all? Females have the option available to them, men do not. This is why homelessness among men is MUCH higher than among women. Just the facts. I know it kills the feminists, but men don't have it all gravy. (We happen to also make up 93% of all OTJ deaths...)

haha you don't have like, welfare villages where you live? Or you just don't know anyone that lives in them?

There are a lot of apartments just in my own neighborhood where only the women work and the men are supported.

It's especially common for fat or gross women, more so when these women have kids with no father in the picture- they are very happy to pay to have a man to come home to.

 

[heavenlyboy34]

I completely disagree. A child needs his mother much more than his father for the first few years of life. That's not to give fathers a free pass to play minimal roles in their children's lives, obviously the father needs to be very involved, but a small child needs the nurturing only a mother can provide.

God made men and women different and those who think a man can simply replace a mother are extremely disrespectful to women.

Also, men need to grow some balls and learn how to lead and provide for their family. If you're a man and your woman is the one paying the bills you should be ashamed of yourself.

I agree with this generally. With only a few exceptions, like if the husband is paralyzed by a car accident or something. Then the mother is rather stuck being a provider as well as care giver. :/

 

[Origanalist]

I completely disagree. A child needs his mother much more than his father for the first few years of life. That's not to give fathers a free pass to play minimal roles in their children's lives, obviously the father needs to be very involved, but a small child needs the nurturing only a mother can provide.

God made men and women different and those who think a man can simply replace a mother are extremely disrespectful to women.

Also, men need to grow some balls and learn how to lead and provide for their family. If you're a man and your woman is the one paying the bills you should be ashamed of yourself.

I was with you until the last sentence. While that holds true in most cases, it doesn't in all. But ya. I've seen more than my share of screwed up role reversals.

 

[eduardo89]

I agree with this generally. With only a few exceptions, like if the husband is paralyzed by a car accident or something. Then the mother is rather stuck being a provider as well as care giver. :/

I was with you until the last sentence. While that holds true in most cases, it doesn't in all. But ya. I've seen more than my share of screwed up role reversals.

Yes, obviously there are certain cases where a woman is the provider and the husband shouldn't be ashamed. An accident, illness, or temporarily being between jobs, for example.

Those are exceptions to the norm, however.

 

[heavenlyboy34]

I was with you until the last sentence. While that holds true in most cases, it doesn't in all. But ya. I've seen more than my share of screwed up role reversals.

Gotta love a sugar mamma, eh?

 

[BetterCallSaul]

lol "husbands."

Where do you kids live?! You are children, right?

 

[Origanalist]

Gotta love a sugar mamma, eh?

When I see perfectly healthy men pushing the baby stroller down the street I get a little sick.

 

[heavenlyboy34]

lol "husbands."

Where do you kids live?! You are children, right?

We all live in our respective mothers' basements, of course. Same as you.

 

[heavenlyboy34]

When I see perfectly healthy men pushing the baby stroller down the street I get a little sick.

How insensitive!

 

[eduardo89]

When I see perfectly healthy men pushing the baby stroller down the street I get a little sick.

Whenever I'm out alone with my daughter I never take a stroller. If she gets tired I carry her.

 

[I<3Liberty]

You're in the minority. It seems most women today want the feminist ideal and chivalry at the same time. Most Feminists today are Marie Antoinette's imho. Now, that said, I too would like to see more acceptance of role reversals, but I'm too prideful and independent to find myself staying at home and letting someone else take care of life responsibilities. I prefer dutch. 50/50, though, I guess I wouldn't be too opposed to finding a hot sugar mama lol.

You're also right that it is becoming more acceptable generally, but not in the dating scene. Folks in other countries live with extended family out of necessity because of economic conditions. We're becoming more and more 3rd world status with each generation. :/

I'd also prefer the 50/50 division of responsibilities.

I agree that living at home takes a toll on the dating scene, but I find that people my age (20) that are in a serious lasting relationship, tend to be the minority. A single 20-year-old living alone or in a dorm, is really no different than 80% (give or take... I just kind of threw that number out as a rough guesstimate) of his/her peers.

I completely disagree. A child needs his mother much more than his father for the first few years of life. That's not to give fathers a free pass to play minimal roles in their children's lives, obviously the father needs to be very involved, but a small child needs the nurturing only a mother can provide.

God made men and women different and those who think a man can simply replace a mother are extremely disrespectful to women.

Also, men need to grow some balls and learn how to lead and provide for their family. If you're a man and your woman is the one paying the bills you should be ashamed of yourself.

I disagree. I grew up in an egalitarian family where both of my parents worked and took turns staying home with me until I went to school. My parents weren't the warm and fuzzy type, but they were caring and loving in a "tough love" way. I appreciate it because I'm one of the most responsible, mature, and independent 20-year-olds I know. Your parenting preference really depends on how you grew up, though. Some people had parents or a guardian that was really lovey-dovey type -- mine always made me do math play educational games, and read books. Both of my parents offered me the same things: encouragement, praise for hard work, and punishment (when necessary.) There was no gender divide or one parent that was more or less nurturing than the other.

I also disagree with your statement that a man should be ashamed if his wife is providing for the family. You can totally be the sole provider if that's what you like, but not all couples do -- they should never be ashamed because their decision is different than your opinion.

 

[eduardo89]

I disagree. I grew up in an egalitarian family where both of my parents worked and took turns staying home with me until I went to school. My parents weren't the warm and fuzzy type, but they were caring and loving in a "tough love" way. I appreciate it because I'm one of the most responsible, mature, and independent 20-year-olds I know. Your parenting preference really depends on how you grew up, though. Some people had parents or a guardian that was really lovey-dovey type -- mine always made me do math play educational games, and read books. Both of my parents offered me the same things: encouragement, praise for hard work, and punishment (when necessary.) There was no gender divide or one parent that was more or less nurturing than the other.

First off, what the hell is an "egalitarian family" mean?

Also, I never said that one parent should be less loving or nurturing than the other. However, a mother's love is different from a father's. Men and women are different, and therefore a father is difference from a mother. It's also shown in the difference between how a father loves a son and a daughter and same with the mother. That doesn't mean a father's love is better than a mother's love (or vice versa) or that a father loves a son more than a daughter. It is simply shown in a different way.

I also disagree with your statement that a man should be ashamed if his wife is providing for the family. You can totally be the sole provider if that's what you like, but not all couples do -- they should never be ashamed because their decision is different than your opinion.

A Christian man certainly should be ashamed if he abrogates his duty to lead and provide for his family.

I'm not saying a man must be the sole provider, but it certainly is shameful for a man to leave the duty of providing for his family to his wife. (Obviously there are exceptions to this such as illness or injury, as I stated before)

 

[oyarde]

My Great Aunt who recently passed away got into a car accident many years ago and broke her hip--she lived in a 4 story Victorian that required a LOT of upkeep, and had no bedrooms on the main floor. I was in college, living in an apartment and I liked the privacy, but it just made no sense for her to hire round-the-clock nurses and housekeepers--so I moved in with her for a year.

Man she was a pain in the ass, but I miss her a lot. Incredibly particular about anything you could possibly imagine, from the brand of coffee filter she'd use, to how her sheets and undergarments were ironed. She was still trying to finish up her book on baseball at age 99...missed 100 years by a few months.

I would like to read the book .

 

[oyarde]

I am a Great American Patriot ,I have worked hard all of my life to ensure I did not have to live in a basement . I imagine though , many basements are much finer than my first apt , lol .When I go to the basement it is to sit by the fire and fondle a good bottle of wine