A Note to Dads with Daughters

[eduardo89]

Something I read and thought I'd share


A Note to Dads with Daughters
By Perry Noble

Dads…

Spend as much time as possible with your little girl!

NOW!!

Seriously, do it right now!!! It’s not too late.

I don’t care how old she is…start right now. *(I just had a conversation a few weeks ago with a guy who flew to California for a day to spend some time with his daughter who is in her 20′s because she wanted to talk to him about something face to face.)

I know…there are times its*awkward.

I began “dating” Charisse (my four year old daughter) when she was about 8-9 months old. *Every Saturday morning I would get her up, read her Bible with her, get her dressed and then take her to Chic Fil A.
Yes, it was weird.

She could not really communicate to me.

She could not tell me what she wanted to eat (usually it was the cheese off of my biscuit.)

I received weird looks from men when I had to take her into the restroom when I had to change her diaper. *(It was ALWAYS obvious when she needed a diaper change–WOW!)

But Dads…we must FIGHT through the*awkwardness in order for her to have an awareness that we are always there, that we love her, care about her and will do whatever it takes to have a relationship with her.
Charisse is older now…she can talk to me and tell me what she wants. *We still go on a date every Saturday morning and just the other day I asked her how much longer she wanted to have daddy dates on Saturday mornings…she replied, “for the rest of my life!”

I’ve got to be honest…I had a lump in my throat and fought back tears!!! *Then it hit me…the reason she said that is because I fought through the awkwardness. *I did not give her to Lucretia and somehow believe the false assumption that I would establish some sort of relationship with her when she became older because of the*awkwardness.

It’s ALWAYS going be a little awkward!
Heck, the other day I asked her what she wanted to do and she replied, “play with my fairy dolls.”
I can PROMISE YOU that “play with fairy dolls” is not on the list of top 1,000 things I would like to do on a Saturday afternoon (and yes, I did throw other suggestions her way.)
BUT…at the end of the day that’s what she wanted to do…and so we did it. *(I was Silvermist for any of the ladies reading who might be interested!)

One day she will get older…I won’t be as cool…

But…even then I’m dedicated to fighting through the awkwardness so her awareness that I love her and am always going to be with her is always there.

Dads…God blessed us with little girls, she should know what it means to be loved, cherished, valued and protected by a man because of who her father is and not her boyfriend!
So, I don’t know how old your daughter is but I can promise you this…it’s NOT TOO LATE!!!

She needs YOU to be her daddy!

She won’t tell you that because you are the leader and are the one who is supposed to take the initiative in the relationship.

Step up, be a man…you can do this!

My prayer for Charisse is that when she hears about her heavenly Father that she does not have to wrestle with thoughts of how God may abuse, abandon or neglect her because of how I (her earthly father) treated her!
I’m not perfect, I’ve made mistakes (and when I do I apologize to her and ask for her forgiveness.)
However, at the end of the day it is my goal to do this right; after all, she is my little girl and it is my job to make it as difficult as possible for some guy to come along and steal her away one day! *

Fight through the awkwardness and make her aware that you are there, that you love her and that your love in not simply declared but rather demonstrated by the fact that you intentionally spend time with her.
Anyone need to schedule a date with their little girl? *

 

[wannaberocker]

Great post. Girls need their fathers to be strong Godly men.

 

[eduardo89]

Great post. Girls need their fathers to be strong Godly men.

I'm trying

But sadly, I haven't been able to see my little girl in 2 weeks now. Her mom is being a vengeful b**** and trying to hurt me with the one thing she knows will hurt me (not being some to see my daughter) to try and get me to cave in to her demands in our custody battle. She's completely ignoring my calls and my visitation rights and theres nothing I can do until a judge decides everything...which could be tomorrow or next month or in 8 months...

 

[dannno]

I'm trying

But sadly, I haven't been able to see my little girl in 2 weeks now. Her mom is being a vengeful b**** and trying to hurt me with the one thing she knows will hurt me (not being some to see my daughter) to try and get me to cave in to her demands in our custody battle. She's completely ignoring my calls and my visitation rights and theres nothing I can do until a judge decides everything...which could be tomorrow or next month or in 8 months...

That's not very nice..

 

[playboymommy]

I'm trying

But sadly, I haven't been able to see my little girl in 2 weeks now. Her mom is being a vengeful b**** and trying to hurt me with the one thing she knows will hurt me (not being some to see my daughter) to try and get me to cave in to her demands in our custody battle. She's completely ignoring my calls and my visitation rights and theres nothing I can do until a judge decides everything...which could be tomorrow or next month or in 8 months...

Sorry you have to deal with that kind of BS. Hope it all works out for the sake of your daughter. Children are not pawns.

 

[eduardo89]

Sorry you have to deal with that kind of BS. Hope it all works out for the sake of your daughter. Children are not pawns.

Try telling my ex that. Also try telling her children are not property. Or tell her that mothers and father have equal rights.

 

[otherone]

Try telling my ex that. Also try telling her children are not property. Or tell her that mothers and father have equal rights.

Daughters learn from their father's interactions with their mother how women are to be treated by men.

 

[angelatc]

Sorry, but this is why people with kids should fucking stay married.

 

[eduardo89]

Daughters learn from their father's interactions with their mother how women are to be treated by men.

Oh I know. And they also learn a lot by the way their mother treats their father and other men.

 

[eduardo89]

Sorry, but this is why people with kids should fucking stay married.

Or be married in the first place.

No more sex out of marriage for me.

 

[playboymommy]

Sorry, but this is why people with kids should fucking stay married.

Why? Adults need to be adults in the situation and love their child(ren) more than they hate their ex.

 

[eduardo89]

Why? Adults need to be adults in the situation and love their child(ren) more than they hate their ex.

Exactly. She doesn't realize that she's violating my daughter's right to have a relationship with her father.

 

[otherone]

Why? Adults need to be adults in the situation and love their child(ren) more than they hate their ex.

+rep
When people realize that love and hate are behaviors, rather than feelings, they begin to understand how dangerous their malice is to their children. Kids don't pay attention to what you feel...they pay attention to what you do.

 

[eduardo89]

+rep
When people realize that love and hate are behaviors, rather than feelings, they begin to understand how dangerous their malice is to their children. Kids don't pay attention to what you feel...they pay attention to what you do.

I would add "and they feel what you do". Children, even when they are babies, feel how you're acting. I remember when my ex would yell at me, swear at me, hit me in front of my daughter. She was only about 6 months old, but I could see she felt what was happening. She didn't know what my ex felt, she didn't understand rage or anger, but she felt the negativity.

 

[fisharmor]

Daughters whose fathers don't pay attention to them grow up to be whores.
Whores who have babies end up leaving them with their parents.
I love my daughters, but dammit, I'm gonna be done with this someday, and if that means putting in some extra time now so I don't have to deal with human excrement and sweep under the table every day, I'm gonna do it.

 

[UtahApocalypse]

Thanks.

This Dad with his first 2 month old Daughter is balling

I look forward to my Daddy-Daughter Dates

 

[wannaberocker]

I'm trying

But sadly, I haven't been able to see my little girl in 2 weeks now. Her mom is being a vengeful b**** and trying to hurt me with the one thing she knows will hurt me (not being some to see my daughter) to try and get me to cave in to her demands in our custody battle. She's completely ignoring my calls and my visitation rights and theres nothing I can do until a judge decides everything...which could be tomorrow or next month or in 8 months...

a tough situation to be in. I do hope that your ex can see that that best thing for the child is to know both her father and mother.

 

[otherone]

I love my daughters, but dammit, I'm gonna be done with this someday, and if that means putting in some extra time now so I don't have to deal with human excrement and sweep under the table every day, I'm gonna do it.

That's why they invented one-bedroom condo's in Boca....

 

[nelsonwinters]

Thanks.

This Dad with his first 2 month old Daughter is balling

I look forward to my Daddy-Daughter Dates

No need to wait. Put her in the stroller and take her to the park, the mall or just go down the street. You'll get a bit of exercise and your wife will appreciate the break too.

 

[Nirvikalpa]

Daughters whose fathers don't pay attention to them grow up to be whores.
Whores who have babies end up leaving them with their parents.
I love my daughters, but dammit, I'm gonna be done with this someday, and if that means putting in some extra time now so I don't have to deal with human excrement and sweep under the table every day, I'm gonna do it.

A woman's decision to have sex, premarital sex, or even sex with a transaction at the end does not always equal a cry out for attention for a new man in her life, because daddy didn't spend time with her.

Liberty. Your body, your freedom. Their body, their freedom. Having sex doesn't mean they are any less deserving of love.