Assisted living for senior citizens

[Riyan]

I think we should look forward to provide old age homes to all our senior citizens. As some old age homes are being provided with all five star luxuries facilities for aged persons, which they really need to live happy healthy and comfortable at this stage of life.

A complete care and support for our residents

 

[presence]

 

[carclinic]

Why can't kids take care of parents?

 

[tod evans]

I think we should look forward to provide old age homes to all our senior citizens. As some old age homes are being provided with all five star luxuries facilities for aged persons, which they really need to live happy healthy and comfortable at this stage of life.

Yes we should, you and I and anybody else who wants to.

However there should be absolutely zero federal government involvement!

 

[Matt Collins]

Why can't kids take care of parents?

Because we have to make a living?

I mean after all, assuming our parents and grandparents actually have any money left when they get older (most won't due to inflation), if we are fortunate to have anything passed down to us, the government will likely get more than half of it.

Yes, it's a sore subject

 

[carclinic]

Because we have to make a living?

I mean after all, assuming our parents and grandparents actually have any money left when they get older (most won't due to inflation), if we are fortunate to have anything passed down to us, the government will likely get more than half of it.

Yes, it's a sore subject

They can live in your house, take care of your kids, and you work. Most of history is like that.

Americans are the only race in the world that abandons their parents, and it will be to their demise.

 

[amy31416]

They can live in your house, take care of your kids, and you work. Most of history is like that.

Americans are the only race in the world that abandons their parents, and it will be to their demise.

That's how it should go, but that doesn't always work out.

 

[donnay]

They can live in your house, take care of your kids, and you work. Most of history is like that.

Americans are the only race in the world that abandons their parents, and it will be to their demise.

I couldn't agree more. It is truly sad that many Americans think their elderly parent are a burden on their life style.

I hate these assisted living (sic) places because all it does is allow the children to tuck their elderly parent away, out of sight - out of mind.

 

[donnay]

Because we have to make a living?

I mean after all, assuming our parents and grandparents actually have any money left when they get older (most won't due to inflation), if we are fortunate to have anything passed down to us, the government will likely get more than half of it.

Yes, it's a sore subject

That's the purpose of government interfering--they take anything that might be passed down to you and your siblings. Most assisted living facilities have you sign over any of your parents/grandparents assets to them. Talk about robbery?

 

[tod evans]

I couldn't agree more. It is truly sad that many Americans think their elderly parent are a burden on their style.

I hate these assisted living (sic) places because all it does is allow the children to tuck their elderly parent away, out of sight - out of mind.

It's the staff at these places I find abhorrent..

The morality involved concerning inter-family dynamics speaks of the sorry state of our society..

 

[AFPVet]

Coming from a family with a grandparent who had to be committed to an Alzheimer's ward, it sucks, but you can't care for them when you're working a full time job. They need to be told when to eat, sleep, activity, and other things. It is sad, but it's part of the process.

Now, for people who are just having some problems with age, assisted living is great! I used to work in HR for a retirement home that had 5-star assisted living accommodations... better than a lot of the condos around here.

 

[MelissaWV]

I strongly dislike ALFs, but SNFs are great places.

My grandmother is in a SNF because of her repeated falls. It just was no longer feasible for my mother to wake up at 3am and hoist my rather sturdy grandmother from the floor where she'd fallen to, to get her back into bed. My family has made her area at the SNF prettier than her room at home ever was, and she has real furniture that we provided, a television, fresh clothes (my mom does the laundry for her), snacks, good food (we bring her hot, home-cooked food as often as possible), the skincare products of her choice, etc.. She is not with us 24/7 but then again she hadn't been for a long time. She lived with my parents from 1977 up until 2009 or 2010. It was time to place her somewhere a nurse would be available, and where the ambulance could get her to a hospital if something more serious happened, in far faster time.

To the OP, I would suggest that you invest in an ALF if you'd like, or a "senior community," which is basically a fancy way of saying it's an ALF where you each get a house instead of a room/apartment. If you really are interested in helping seniors, I am 100% certain there is a nearby facility that will take your donations of time, money, and materials.

 

[Origanalist]

My mother should probably not be on her own anymore, but she is as stubborn as a mule and isn't about to give up and let go. I gotta give her cudo's for that, she keeps finding a way to live on her own. When she loses that battle I'm pretty sure she'll be with me up until it's medically impossible.

 

[Origanalist]

I think we should look forward to provide old age homes to all our senior citizens. As some old age homes are being provided with all five star luxuries facilities for aged persons, which they really need to live happy healthy and comfortable at this stage of life.

There are some who don't want to be provided for.

 

[tod evans]

My mother should probably not be on her own anymore, but she is as stubborn as a mule and isn't about to give up and let go. I gotta give her cudo's for that, she keeps finding a way to live on her own. When she loses that battle I'm pretty sure she'll be with me up until it's medically impossible.

Respect to you both!

 

[opal]

maybe it's just my family.. but the take care of my folks and let them care for my kids thing.. there's an age discrepancy there.. My folks are in their late 70's and early 80's respectively.. I'm over 50 and my kid is almost 30.

My folks, I'm sure would like more visits from all the kids/grandkids but don't want to live with any of us. I think my dad would like to live in one of those senior communities where they all drive golf carts on the roads except they won't let him shoot in the neighborhood and have rules about firearms in their own dwellings.

I'm sure if one of us had a *compound* that had different buildings for each branch of the family - and a pool (mom insists on a pool to work out her arthritis kinks in) they would be happy to live ~near~ everyone.

 

[angelatc]

My mother should probably not be on her own anymore, but she is as stubborn as a mule and isn't about to give up and let go. I gotta give her cudo's for that, she keeps finding a way to live on her own. When she loses that battle I'm pretty sure she'll be with me up until it's medically impossible.

My grandmother was like that. She eventually fell, and had to go into a nursing home for rehab because she broke a hip. She never got well enough to return home. She was diagnosed with Alzheimer's while she was in there, and she got bad, fast.

But because my family is good with money, she had no assets still in her name by the time that happened, so ya'll helped pay for her care.

 

[Matt Collins]

On the flip side - isn't it considered progress that we can pay others to take care of those who need attention? (assuming the government doesn't pay for it)

 

[VIDEODROME]

When the time comes I'm putting my parents in The Matrix.

 

[Nirvikalpa]

Nursing/Assisted living homes are my least favorite EMS calls. I don't think I've had a patient yet who I considered was properly taken care of. Case in point; during the hurricane I was dispatched for a "GI bleed" to a local nursing home. Patient was laying in a puddle of their own blood, flat, nearly choking on their own saliva (which was beginning to cake up and harden). They were also coughing up sticky mucus and nearly choking on that. As they were laying flat.

The things seniors will tell a stranger in the back of an ambulance when they know they are heading to the hospital where they will probably die. I've been told to travel more, have sex more, spend more time home with family... I've heard a lot of stories about marriages and how lonely people are when their mate dies and they're just left alone in a split second after nearly a lifetime together. But the worst is having seniors crying and talking about how none of their family/kids talk to them or even acknowledge they exist, refuse to help them, or they plain and simply have no living family/friends left.

I've made a promise to myself to never let my own parents, or my husband's parents, die alone like that.