Moral dilemma

[ronpaulitician]

Wife of one of my colleagues comes home along with a female friend and finds her husband having sex with one of my other colleagues on her couch. Husband disappeared into bedroom, while the girl opened the door in his shirt, laughing. Wife and female friend just leave at that point, but when she confronted her husband about it later on, he grabbed her hair and pulled it violently. She hit him on the face at that point. He called cops, and since he had bruising and she didn't, they arrested her. He takes the baby and moves in with the colleague and her husband. Wife happens to work with a friend of a friend, which is how I happened to hear the story. Second hand information, so I'm not 100% sure how much of it is true. (The story around the office is that the wife abuses the male colleague. Possible, I guess, but he's twice her size, and if they really were having sex like that in her house, I doubt that the abuse stories are true.) What I do know is that the wife has been extremely distraught for six weeks or so. She had mentioned that she wanted to hurt the girl. The friend of a friend mentioned that she might know some people.

What do I do at this point? Risk unnecessarily scaring my colleagues by telling them about the threat? Risk a lifelong guilt if something bad were to actually happen and I didn't speak up?

 

[yongrel]

Stay the hell away from that drama.

 

[adara7537]

I agree with Yongrel

 

[dr. hfn]

mind your own goddamn business! Period!

 

[slothman]

I am personally against telling the gov't things like that.
Even though it sounds ohrwellion I only tell things I see, or hear, myself and not from other people.

 

[ronpaulitician]

I'm not thinking about telling government, just the colleagues. To be honest, I had thought there was something going on between the two of them for a few weeks now, so the story of them having an affair didn't come as a complete surprise. The girl colleague is a very good friend of mine. Well, "was", I guess I should say, because I can't respect someone going along with having someone's baby taken away like that. Oh, and I heard the friend of a friend say, "I know some people." I also know that she does indeed "know" those kind of people, though I don't know if they're serious about the threat.

 

[yongrel]

Seriously, just stay out. Their lives are all in a kerfuffle; don't get sucked in.

 

[Danke]

She had mentioned that she wanted to hurt the girl. The friend of a friend mentioned that she might know some people.

What do I do at this point? Risk unnecessarily scaring my colleagues by telling them about the threat? Risk a lifelong guilt if something bad were to actually happen and I didn't speak up?

Well, seeing that you just posted this on the Internet. You might wish to get some legal advise. Could come back to haunt you if something does in fact happen.

 

[ronpaulitician]

Well, seeing that you just posted this on the Internet. You might wish to get some legal advise. Could come back to haunt you if something does in fact happen.

I care less about legal ramifications than moral ones.

 

[yongrel]

Also, never ask the internet for advice.

 

[ronpaulitician]

Also, never ask the internet for advice.

Yeah, you're probably right. I just haven't been able to sleep, and don't really have anyone to discuss this with.

 

[yongrel]

Yeah, you're probably right. I just haven't been able to sleep, and don't really have anyone to discuss this with.

I know the feeling, but this just isn't something you want to put on a public forum. It sucks to be in a situation like this where there's no obvious right answer, but we're not the people to help you.

We're a bunch of anonymous schmucks online past our bedtimes, and we're no substitute for the friends and family that will be able to help you.

 

[Danke]

I care less about legal ramifications than moral ones.

O.K.

 

[ronpaulitician]

We're a bunch of anonymous schmucks online past our bedtimes, and we're no substitute for the friends and family that will be able to help you.

Family is unavailable right now (vacation, no cell), and friends... she happened to be one of my few friends. All my other friends know her, and would probably know who I'm talking about. They're all colleagues, so... I think I'm just gonna bite the bullet and e-mail her.